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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 439788" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>As difficult child is scratching, he likely needs some treatment to stop the itching. Most likely miconazole cream (like monistat - the 7 day kind) but you can use the shorter versions. They won't fix it any sooner. Plus having him sit in a cool bath with baking soda in the water will help. If it is his tush as well as the front area, he needs something all the way around. Most jock itch truly is a yeast infection on the skin according to the dermatologist I have known. You can use lamisil but it is a lot more expensive for less of it. It is safe to put on any skin. </p><p></p><p>I would sit easy child/difficult child down and tell her the very next time she hits him or a door or anything you are calling the police and pressing charges. I would probably tell difficult child that I would do it to him also. I realize he is hypersexual and you have dealt with that for a long time, but in my opinion your husband needs to get a lot more involved. it sounds like he ignored things until he started yelling, then stomped off. Somehow you need to get through that difficult child NEEDS him to set a strong, CALM and firm example. WHen the hands go down the pants, husband needs to addressit firmly. If he doesn't and the pants come down, or they just come down and anyone else is in a room, a strong message needs to be sent.</p><p></p><p>Not so much because it is wrong to touch yourself, but because he is going to start being arrested for indecent exposure soon. I am NOT kidding. School may call the police or anyone on a street might. If windows are open and others see him doing this in a room with you and/or husband, you could be in huge trouble. </p><p></p><p>But easy child/difficult child is so far out of line it isn't funny. Have you done a random drug test? Here summer school is one of the easiest places to get drugs and booze for teens. Other places are easy to get them also. At her age, this stuff must stop. She is basically an adult and hitting a 13yo isn't okay. Neither is property damage - and you CAN press charges.</p><p></p><p>Have you considered asking for advice at the dv center in your area? in my opinion easy child/difficult child needs to get some therapy there. What she is doing, not letting him sing, whistle, say, do anything, sit anywhere, hitting him, damaging his door, this is ALL domestic violence and abusive behavior. If she wants any privileges, she needs to be going to group and indiv counseling at the dv center. The groups for abusers, not for victims at this point. </p><p></p><p>Just suggestions. I am sure it was an awful evening and if even part of one suggestion helps then I am glad I posted them. not wanting/being ready to try them is okay too. I just know I was shocked at how effective the therapy for dv was. Being called an abuser is a shock and might be a wakeup call, as would calling the police, that she had better start acting like an adult because there are big consequences. If difficult child calls 911 because she hits him, she will likely go to jail. regardless of what you say unless he hit her first. Simply because their ages.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 439788, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) As difficult child is scratching, he likely needs some treatment to stop the itching. Most likely miconazole cream (like monistat - the 7 day kind) but you can use the shorter versions. They won't fix it any sooner. Plus having him sit in a cool bath with baking soda in the water will help. If it is his tush as well as the front area, he needs something all the way around. Most jock itch truly is a yeast infection on the skin according to the dermatologist I have known. You can use lamisil but it is a lot more expensive for less of it. It is safe to put on any skin. I would sit easy child/difficult child down and tell her the very next time she hits him or a door or anything you are calling the police and pressing charges. I would probably tell difficult child that I would do it to him also. I realize he is hypersexual and you have dealt with that for a long time, but in my opinion your husband needs to get a lot more involved. it sounds like he ignored things until he started yelling, then stomped off. Somehow you need to get through that difficult child NEEDS him to set a strong, CALM and firm example. WHen the hands go down the pants, husband needs to addressit firmly. If he doesn't and the pants come down, or they just come down and anyone else is in a room, a strong message needs to be sent. Not so much because it is wrong to touch yourself, but because he is going to start being arrested for indecent exposure soon. I am NOT kidding. School may call the police or anyone on a street might. If windows are open and others see him doing this in a room with you and/or husband, you could be in huge trouble. But easy child/difficult child is so far out of line it isn't funny. Have you done a random drug test? Here summer school is one of the easiest places to get drugs and booze for teens. Other places are easy to get them also. At her age, this stuff must stop. She is basically an adult and hitting a 13yo isn't okay. Neither is property damage - and you CAN press charges. Have you considered asking for advice at the dv center in your area? in my opinion easy child/difficult child needs to get some therapy there. What she is doing, not letting him sing, whistle, say, do anything, sit anywhere, hitting him, damaging his door, this is ALL domestic violence and abusive behavior. If she wants any privileges, she needs to be going to group and indiv counseling at the dv center. The groups for abusers, not for victims at this point. Just suggestions. I am sure it was an awful evening and if even part of one suggestion helps then I am glad I posted them. not wanting/being ready to try them is okay too. I just know I was shocked at how effective the therapy for dv was. Being called an abuser is a shock and might be a wakeup call, as would calling the police, that she had better start acting like an adult because there are big consequences. If difficult child calls 911 because she hits him, she will likely go to jail. regardless of what you say unless he hit her first. Simply because their ages. [/QUOTE]
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