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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 440304" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>While I think Fran has many good points, esp as I was the sib of a difficult child and know how badly it affected me, I still think her violence has to be addressed very firmly. NOT because it is so out of line, but because she is not likely to be able to keep it just to difficult child or just in the home. If she goes off like this in public, or to anyone else, she is going to face assault charges and/or destruction of property charges. those could severely limit her options for many many years. NOt sure what she wants for a career, but it would tend to rule out jobs in education, daycare, anything with kids, anything with security risks/implications, even most military jobs.</p><p></p><p>After she leaves home you may want to make separate holidays for her, ones where difficult child isn't there. May not be possible until he leaves home, but please allow her that relationship with you separate from him if she needs it. I know that my mother's pressure to be around my brother has damaged my relationship with her badly. And her relationship with my kids. We all feel that unless we are willing to spend time with the person who abuses all of us then she doesn't want to spend time with us much. As if we are not worthy of enjoying unless he is there. I know on most levels she doesn't think this, but it IS what her actions say anyway. I don't want you to end up with that block between you and easy child/difficult child. (you meaning mom and dad).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 440304, member: 1233"] While I think Fran has many good points, esp as I was the sib of a difficult child and know how badly it affected me, I still think her violence has to be addressed very firmly. NOT because it is so out of line, but because she is not likely to be able to keep it just to difficult child or just in the home. If she goes off like this in public, or to anyone else, she is going to face assault charges and/or destruction of property charges. those could severely limit her options for many many years. NOt sure what she wants for a career, but it would tend to rule out jobs in education, daycare, anything with kids, anything with security risks/implications, even most military jobs. After she leaves home you may want to make separate holidays for her, ones where difficult child isn't there. May not be possible until he leaves home, but please allow her that relationship with you separate from him if she needs it. I know that my mother's pressure to be around my brother has damaged my relationship with her badly. And her relationship with my kids. We all feel that unless we are willing to spend time with the person who abuses all of us then she doesn't want to spend time with us much. As if we are not worthy of enjoying unless he is there. I know on most levels she doesn't think this, but it IS what her actions say anyway. I don't want you to end up with that block between you and easy child/difficult child. (you meaning mom and dad). [/QUOTE]
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