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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 753086" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Penny,</p><p></p><p>So unfair of your son to try and use your grandchild and future grandchild as some kind of bargaining chip. That speaks volumes about the kind of person he is. </p><p>I'm glad that you get along with your grandchild's mother because she can let you see your grandchild. Your son may think he all the control but he doesn't unless I missed something like him having full custody. If it were me, I would do my very best to maintain a relationship with the mother of your grandchild as that will help keep the door open for you.</p><p>As for the new grandchild on the way, heavy sigh......<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p><p>Only time will tell if the mother of this child will stick around with your son. </p><p></p><p></p><p>If it were me and my son said something like this, my response would be "what kind of father ARE you to use your children as bargaining chips to get money from me"</p><p></p><p>My son wasn't around his kids long enough to use them as a bargaining chip but he most definitely tried using emotional blackmail. I would get the "if you really loved me you would help me", or "I'm going to starve to death" or "I'm going to freeze to death" or "I know you have the money, you won't help me because you hate me"</p><p>I have found it's best to have a canned, standard answer to give when the request for money comes up.</p><p>Son: Mom, you need to help me! I need $$$ for "whatever crisis"</p><p>Mom: I'm not able to help you. You are smart, I'm sure you'll figure something out.</p><p>Son: What kind of mother are you that you won't help me!!!</p><p>Mom: I'm not able to help you. You are smart, I'm sure you'll figure something out.</p><p>Son: If you ever want to see your grandchild you will give me the money!!!!</p><p>Mom: Someones at the door, gotta run, love you, bye. or I'm running late for an appointment, gotta run, love you, bye. </p><p>You get the idea.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, you have to make a choice if you will allow your son to hold your emotions hostage. If he uses your grandchild as a bargaining chip and you give in, it will never end.</p><p></p><p>As for you moving, this just may be the best thing for you. A fresh start! I think it's great to take some time just for you but don't take too long, make sure you get out and meet new people. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grouphugg.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grouphugg:" title="grouphugg :grouphugg:" data-shortname=":grouphugg:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grouphugg.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grouphugg:" title="grouphugg :grouphugg:" data-shortname=":grouphugg:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grouphugg.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grouphugg:" title="grouphugg :grouphugg:" data-shortname=":grouphugg:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 753086, member: 18516"] Hi Penny, So unfair of your son to try and use your grandchild and future grandchild as some kind of bargaining chip. That speaks volumes about the kind of person he is. I'm glad that you get along with your grandchild's mother because she can let you see your grandchild. Your son may think he all the control but he doesn't unless I missed something like him having full custody. If it were me, I would do my very best to maintain a relationship with the mother of your grandchild as that will help keep the door open for you. As for the new grandchild on the way, heavy sigh......:sigh: Only time will tell if the mother of this child will stick around with your son. If it were me and my son said something like this, my response would be "what kind of father ARE you to use your children as bargaining chips to get money from me" My son wasn't around his kids long enough to use them as a bargaining chip but he most definitely tried using emotional blackmail. I would get the "if you really loved me you would help me", or "I'm going to starve to death" or "I'm going to freeze to death" or "I know you have the money, you won't help me because you hate me" I have found it's best to have a canned, standard answer to give when the request for money comes up. Son: Mom, you need to help me! I need $$$ for "whatever crisis" Mom: I'm not able to help you. You are smart, I'm sure you'll figure something out. Son: What kind of mother are you that you won't help me!!! Mom: I'm not able to help you. You are smart, I'm sure you'll figure something out. Son: If you ever want to see your grandchild you will give me the money!!!! Mom: Someones at the door, gotta run, love you, bye. or I'm running late for an appointment, gotta run, love you, bye. You get the idea. Bottom line, you have to make a choice if you will allow your son to hold your emotions hostage. If he uses your grandchild as a bargaining chip and you give in, it will never end. As for you moving, this just may be the best thing for you. A fresh start! I think it's great to take some time just for you but don't take too long, make sure you get out and meet new people. :grouphugg::grouphugg::grouphugg: [/QUOTE]
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