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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 160794" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>You know what has been working for my STILL unstable kid/brat... who I am happily away from... her blood levels are still low... so she is still unstable!!!</p><p></p><p>Anyhoo. We have had this same and many like this fights... I have had to, which I do not like to do because I feel like like telling her to frick off!!!</p><p>I ask her for help... It seems so simple, but I ask her to help me do something. Like get something special, like a soda out of the fridge and then get the cup and the straw... help me open it, pour it, put the straw in... etc. By the time we are done and we are sharing the, stupid, soda she has mostly calmed down and we can talk calmly about it. </p><p>I don't like the idea that she is getting something "special" but sometimes it is the ONLY thing thats helps...</p><p>I have asked her to help me get/find the cookies and some milk, a plate cup etc... </p><p>Even laundry, I will set up the stool and tell her I can't reach the soap, or a dish... anything to distract but that makes them feel good, bribe, treat... to help them forget what they are PO'd about... kind of a basket C thing, with a bribe/helper variance. I have been buying little cheap dollar things at the store and putting them away just for these times. I tell her I know she is upset and if she can take a deep breath... count to 5 or 10... calm for 1 minute... I have something for her, because she is such a big girl. Then we talk about it. It shows them they can try and control and have control over their moods. We know it is hard but we are there to help them and show them the way...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 160794, member: 3155"] You know what has been working for my STILL unstable kid/brat... who I am happily away from... her blood levels are still low... so she is still unstable!!! Anyhoo. We have had this same and many like this fights... I have had to, which I do not like to do because I feel like like telling her to frick off!!! I ask her for help... It seems so simple, but I ask her to help me do something. Like get something special, like a soda out of the fridge and then get the cup and the straw... help me open it, pour it, put the straw in... etc. By the time we are done and we are sharing the, stupid, soda she has mostly calmed down and we can talk calmly about it. I don't like the idea that she is getting something "special" but sometimes it is the ONLY thing thats helps... I have asked her to help me get/find the cookies and some milk, a plate cup etc... Even laundry, I will set up the stool and tell her I can't reach the soap, or a dish... anything to distract but that makes them feel good, bribe, treat... to help them forget what they are PO'd about... kind of a basket C thing, with a bribe/helper variance. I have been buying little cheap dollar things at the store and putting them away just for these times. I tell her I know she is upset and if she can take a deep breath... count to 5 or 10... calm for 1 minute... I have something for her, because she is such a big girl. Then we talk about it. It shows them they can try and control and have control over their moods. We know it is hard but we are there to help them and show them the way... [/QUOTE]
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