After lunch today (my son comes home for one and a half hours at lunchtime), we went together to the large area near us in the village where J can ride his bike. When it was time to go back, he wanted to ride the long way home. Fine - I walked on behind and he disappeared from view. I naturally presumed he had gone home (a minute's walk) - not there. So then I thought... he's gone back to school by himself. Went to school but he wasn't there. Back home - still not there. So I took the car and drove around the village to look for him. He was with a family we know (the mother was outside feeding a baby lamb she is looking after). I scolded him but I can see that he just doesn't understand, just doesn't "get it", firstly that he cannot just disappear like that and secondly that it was time for school. I took him to school and heard the teacher really talking to him in a hard voice, saying "You can do that sort of thing with Mummy, but not with me! Where do you think you are?" etc, etc. Made my heart sink even though I have my own moments of talking to him horribly... And of course it's all further confirmation for the teacher that J is like he is because I am not authorative enough. It's not the first time he has done it. He has several times disappeared off into the village without telling me and then turns up, again with no sense that he has done anything wrong. I am taking this as an impulse control problem. Being five doesn't help but I honestly think very few other five year olds would not understand that they cannot go off by themselves... What is your take on it?