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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 736444" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I'm so sorry, Grace, for this crazy place you find yourself because of your son's bad choices. </p><p></p><p>The thinking of an addict, blaming others for all of their problems and perseverating about the ONE THING they've decided will make it all better.</p><p></p><p>You've done what you can, Grace. The sad fact is that there's likely no reasoning with him until he gets clean. Until then all you can do is work on how you respond to his crazy-making choices.</p><p></p><p>Most of us who have been here for awhile have made quite a bit of conscious effort crafting a recovery program...for US, not for them.</p><p></p><p>For me it was counseling, first alone and then jointly with my husband; Al-Anon; lots of reading on codependency; meditation; long walks in beautiful, peaceful spots; and lots and lots of time on these boards.</p><p></p><p>"Love Says No" is a hard one when we're in the middle of one of their manipulations, and accepting that our precious child may die or face years in prison because of his own slow hand is a terrifying reality to finally acknowledge.</p><p></p><p>As hard as it is for them to learn new ways of thinking, I believe it's even harder for us. We have to learn new ways of thinking AND new ways of <strong>LOVING</strong>.</p><p></p><p>Do keep posting; it helps so much. This place is filled with wisdom and support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 736444, member: 17720"] I'm so sorry, Grace, for this crazy place you find yourself because of your son's bad choices. The thinking of an addict, blaming others for all of their problems and perseverating about the ONE THING they've decided will make it all better. You've done what you can, Grace. The sad fact is that there's likely no reasoning with him until he gets clean. Until then all you can do is work on how you respond to his crazy-making choices. Most of us who have been here for awhile have made quite a bit of conscious effort crafting a recovery program...for US, not for them. For me it was counseling, first alone and then jointly with my husband; Al-Anon; lots of reading on codependency; meditation; long walks in beautiful, peaceful spots; and lots and lots of time on these boards. "Love Says No" is a hard one when we're in the middle of one of their manipulations, and accepting that our precious child may die or face years in prison because of his own slow hand is a terrifying reality to finally acknowledge. As hard as it is for them to learn new ways of thinking, I believe it's even harder for us. We have to learn new ways of thinking AND new ways of [B]LOVING[/B]. Do keep posting; it helps so much. This place is filled with wisdom and support. [/QUOTE]
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