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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 736450" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Welcome grace.</p><p></p><p>I reiterate everything everybody else says.</p><p></p><p>Call 911 for suicide threats. This will sound harsh. Either they will or will not attempt suicide. Either they will or will not come to harm or cause it.</p><p></p><p>But this is the key: it has not one thing to do with what we do, say, are or were. And everything to do with their choices. Which we cannot control.</p><p></p><p>This is a spiritual path. For us. And them. We have no real role on their paths. We just create obstacles. Really. Our purpose is found on our own path. (Believe me. I know how hard this is.)</p><p></p><p>To give him any sense at all that his outcomes rely in any way on you, just confuses things. To believe we know what they should do or where they should go, is self-deception. </p><p></p><p>When they are adults, only they can know. And if they do not, it is only their own stumbling, discovery and meditation that can right them.</p><p></p><p>Finally, do not accept his blame. It is garbage talk. Terminate the call or conversation. This is abusive. It does not help him or you that you become his victim.</p><p></p><p>You are stronger than you know. But we are helpless with them. Which is not a bad thing. They must build their own agency and discover their own resolve.</p><p></p><p>So do we. In our own lives. Not theirs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 736450, member: 18958"] Welcome grace. I reiterate everything everybody else says. Call 911 for suicide threats. This will sound harsh. Either they will or will not attempt suicide. Either they will or will not come to harm or cause it. But this is the key: it has not one thing to do with what we do, say, are or were. And everything to do with their choices. Which we cannot control. This is a spiritual path. For us. And them. We have no real role on their paths. We just create obstacles. Really. Our purpose is found on our own path. (Believe me. I know how hard this is.) To give him any sense at all that his outcomes rely in any way on you, just confuses things. To believe we know what they should do or where they should go, is self-deception. When they are adults, only they can know. And if they do not, it is only their own stumbling, discovery and meditation that can right them. Finally, do not accept his blame. It is garbage talk. Terminate the call or conversation. This is abusive. It does not help him or you that you become his victim. You are stronger than you know. But we are helpless with them. Which is not a bad thing. They must build their own agency and discover their own resolve. So do we. In our own lives. Not theirs. [/QUOTE]
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