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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 699760" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>This is very difficult to do tandemdame, take whatever information is offered, sift through it and formulate your own plan, a plan that feels right to you.</p><p></p><p>Honestly, I think the main thing to consider is to get yourself and your husband support. Someone who can help you map out a strategy that will work for the two of you. When I was in the throes of the insanity of my daughters life, I got myself into as many environments as possible to learn new ways to parent......I knew that left to my own devices, it would be way too hard for me to do. Like you, I felt sick about what I had to do and really was not sure I could do it. I got into a 2 year course on codependency lead by therapists, so I was in private therapy and group therapy, plus classes. I also went to Coda 12 step groups. I wrote on this forum A LOT and read many books recommended by folks here. It took a village for me to make the changes necessary. But I did it and my daughter did change. (<em>After I changed).</em> </p><p></p><p>I'm not sure if this is a valid point considering the restraining order, but you may want to check into the eviction laws in your state. Your daughter may have legal rights to live in your home, which would ultimately mean you have to go through the legal process of evicting her. You may want to check to see if the restraining order nullifies her rights as a 'tenant'. If she is not aware of that, it may not be an issue, but if she is, she may have rights that you are not aware of. </p><p></p><p>It's a lot to take in. You have a bit of time.....take good care of yourself......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 699760, member: 13542"] This is very difficult to do tandemdame, take whatever information is offered, sift through it and formulate your own plan, a plan that feels right to you. Honestly, I think the main thing to consider is to get yourself and your husband support. Someone who can help you map out a strategy that will work for the two of you. When I was in the throes of the insanity of my daughters life, I got myself into as many environments as possible to learn new ways to parent......I knew that left to my own devices, it would be way too hard for me to do. Like you, I felt sick about what I had to do and really was not sure I could do it. I got into a 2 year course on codependency lead by therapists, so I was in private therapy and group therapy, plus classes. I also went to Coda 12 step groups. I wrote on this forum A LOT and read many books recommended by folks here. It took a village for me to make the changes necessary. But I did it and my daughter did change. ([I]After I changed).[/I] I'm not sure if this is a valid point considering the restraining order, but you may want to check into the eviction laws in your state. Your daughter may have legal rights to live in your home, which would ultimately mean you have to go through the legal process of evicting her. You may want to check to see if the restraining order nullifies her rights as a 'tenant'. If she is not aware of that, it may not be an issue, but if she is, she may have rights that you are not aware of. It's a lot to take in. You have a bit of time.....take good care of yourself...... [/QUOTE]
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