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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 277516" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>You are a good mother. You are compassionate and empathetic, but you also realize that he broke a rule and he is suffering a natural consequence, which in my opinion is the best way for difficult child's to learn.</p><p> </p><p>Can I tell you something? My brother has taught at an affluent New England high school for the past ten years, history and social studies, regular and advanced placement. One student was consequenced with not attending a school-sponsored ski trip in Vermont because he did something seriously against the rules as school (not a criminal offense but something bad enough to get you banned from the trip). The trip was scheduled for winter break. What did his parents do? They felt so sorry for him that they scheduled a last-minute vacation that same week at the same resort, so their child could experience the ski trip with his classmates, even though he technically wasn't part of the group. He never suffered a consequence and the teachers and administrator's authority was seriously undermined.</p><p> </p><p>This kind of stuff goes on all the time in my community, and kids never learn, because mom and dad will always fix it. That, to a certain degree, is why I still have a difficult child at age 16.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 277516, member: 5941"] You are a good mother. You are compassionate and empathetic, but you also realize that he broke a rule and he is suffering a natural consequence, which in my opinion is the best way for difficult child's to learn. Can I tell you something? My brother has taught at an affluent New England high school for the past ten years, history and social studies, regular and advanced placement. One student was consequenced with not attending a school-sponsored ski trip in Vermont because he did something seriously against the rules as school (not a criminal offense but something bad enough to get you banned from the trip). The trip was scheduled for winter break. What did his parents do? They felt so sorry for him that they scheduled a last-minute vacation that same week at the same resort, so their child could experience the ski trip with his classmates, even though he technically wasn't part of the group. He never suffered a consequence and the teachers and administrator's authority was seriously undermined. This kind of stuff goes on all the time in my community, and kids never learn, because mom and dad will always fix it. That, to a certain degree, is why I still have a difficult child at age 16. [/QUOTE]
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