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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 579362" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>We didn't confront last night - my husband and I decided it was best to wait until today as we will be able to talk to the Iop lead and home counselor. I am thinking that if his reaction is over the top it's time to register him with the court and put him on probation. We have tried everything - wilderness, counseling, iop, boarding school - he just cannot function. This time it was a scale and whip-it kits- no wonder his behavior is unstable. He has threatened that if we do put him on probation it will only make things worse and he will end up in detention because he will be so angry -"what parents call the cops on their kid". He blames us for most of his problems - if we would just get off his back everything would be ok. We are a normal family - nice house - loving parents and sister - dogs-cats the whole thing. How does this happen? My husband said last night that he feels like he doesn't have a son anymore - he's ashamed of him. I can't blame him. We have tried to help him - I talk to the school multiple times a week - I have sought out many avenues of help - what else is there? I do take care of myself - I go to the gym daily, go to counseling with my husband to work through the stress, attend a parent support group etc. Most of the time I stay strong - but I feel like we are at a crossroads of realizing we cannot help him. He is not stable in our home but there are no other options. Today he will get in my face - scream possibly throw a few things - maybe take off - I know what to do but that doesn't make it easy- it's sad to have to go up against your son. He will do these things because he sees us as the enemy - we need to stay out of his life - that life where he is failing out of school- possibly selling weed and using substances continually.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 579362, member: 12490"] We didn't confront last night - my husband and I decided it was best to wait until today as we will be able to talk to the Iop lead and home counselor. I am thinking that if his reaction is over the top it's time to register him with the court and put him on probation. We have tried everything - wilderness, counseling, iop, boarding school - he just cannot function. This time it was a scale and whip-it kits- no wonder his behavior is unstable. He has threatened that if we do put him on probation it will only make things worse and he will end up in detention because he will be so angry -"what parents call the cops on their kid". He blames us for most of his problems - if we would just get off his back everything would be ok. We are a normal family - nice house - loving parents and sister - dogs-cats the whole thing. How does this happen? My husband said last night that he feels like he doesn't have a son anymore - he's ashamed of him. I can't blame him. We have tried to help him - I talk to the school multiple times a week - I have sought out many avenues of help - what else is there? I do take care of myself - I go to the gym daily, go to counseling with my husband to work through the stress, attend a parent support group etc. Most of the time I stay strong - but I feel like we are at a crossroads of realizing we cannot help him. He is not stable in our home but there are no other options. Today he will get in my face - scream possibly throw a few things - maybe take off - I know what to do but that doesn't make it easy- it's sad to have to go up against your son. He will do these things because he sees us as the enemy - we need to stay out of his life - that life where he is failing out of school- possibly selling weed and using substances continually. [/QUOTE]
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