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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 579367" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Zardo.... I am thinking of you today. I too have been in your shoes, and like Jane said it is bring back flashbacks of those days. It is a horrible way to live and you have all my thoughts and supports. We too were one of those parents who called the police, more than once in fact. And I know a number of parents who have.... like Nancy said sometimes as a parent you have to do what you can for your kid, no matter how much they hate you for it at the time. </p><p></p><p>You are doing all the right things. Keep talking to your husband, it is more important now than ever to stay on the same page and to give each other support. This is a very tough road to be on.</p><p></p><p>I wish I had some magic advice but I don't. All I can suggest is what I think you are already doing... but be clear in eyour expectations, wait until you are calm so that you can deliver them calmly. Spell out the consequences, like for rexample you break the law here at home we will call the police. If he gets out of control and starts getting violent in any way, call the police. Believe me they get more of these calls than anyone knows. Its one of those things parents dont talk about.</p><p></p><p>One of the things I love about my alanon support group is it is the one place I go (besides this board) where other parents know what it is like to call the police on their kids... or to get those middle of the night phone calls from the police!!</p><p></p><p>Hugs - I am thinking of you today.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 579367, member: 15801"] Zardo.... I am thinking of you today. I too have been in your shoes, and like Jane said it is bring back flashbacks of those days. It is a horrible way to live and you have all my thoughts and supports. We too were one of those parents who called the police, more than once in fact. And I know a number of parents who have.... like Nancy said sometimes as a parent you have to do what you can for your kid, no matter how much they hate you for it at the time. You are doing all the right things. Keep talking to your husband, it is more important now than ever to stay on the same page and to give each other support. This is a very tough road to be on. I wish I had some magic advice but I don't. All I can suggest is what I think you are already doing... but be clear in eyour expectations, wait until you are calm so that you can deliver them calmly. Spell out the consequences, like for rexample you break the law here at home we will call the police. If he gets out of control and starts getting violent in any way, call the police. Believe me they get more of these calls than anyone knows. Its one of those things parents dont talk about. One of the things I love about my alanon support group is it is the one place I go (besides this board) where other parents know what it is like to call the police on their kids... or to get those middle of the night phone calls from the police!! Hugs - I am thinking of you today. TL [/QUOTE]
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