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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 318346"><p>We presented difficult child with the offer this morning and she was less than grateful. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /> She would not agree to having a caseworker come to her house. It was weird, 'cause she admits to having severe problems in a variety of areas, but says she is embarassed to have someone come to her house and check up on her. I suggested that perhaps this person could come 3x a month and the fourth visit could be at some place nearby like a library...but that did not make her feel better. Worse than anything, she was rude and disrespectful.</p><p></p><p>This (rudeness) is not anything I'm inclined to tolerate and these days, neither is husband. So, husband and I simply told her the "deal is off and off permanently." It was a one time offer.</p><p></p><p>We told her that if she found a place for her to rent, that when her rent money came in from SSI, we would be happy to pay for rent using her SSI money.</p><p></p><p>I will continue looking for group home information and will keep a record of what I find.</p><p></p><p>If and only if, difficult child asks for this information, will it be provided for her. I will not offer it, etc.</p><p></p><p>husband is totally finished with- her and this time he means it. I can tell. I have been married to him for many years...he means it...big time x10. I am nearly there....</p><p></p><p>I am numb....but resigned to it all in a certain way. We have tried, tried and tried some more.</p><p></p><p>There have been times difficult child has been willing to help herself grow...but many times that she is not.</p><p></p><p>I can not force her to do things that she doesn't want to do. </p><p></p><p>IT is concerning and sad because her issues are extreme, her decisions are extreme and the dangers/risk are extreme. I have not posted all that has happened in the last week...some of it I just learned about...it was big surprise.</p><p></p><p>I tried my best. All I can do is hope for the best and move forward...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 318346"] We presented difficult child with the offer this morning and she was less than grateful. :sad-very: She would not agree to having a caseworker come to her house. It was weird, 'cause she admits to having severe problems in a variety of areas, but says she is embarassed to have someone come to her house and check up on her. I suggested that perhaps this person could come 3x a month and the fourth visit could be at some place nearby like a library...but that did not make her feel better. Worse than anything, she was rude and disrespectful. This (rudeness) is not anything I'm inclined to tolerate and these days, neither is husband. So, husband and I simply told her the "deal is off and off permanently." It was a one time offer. We told her that if she found a place for her to rent, that when her rent money came in from SSI, we would be happy to pay for rent using her SSI money. I will continue looking for group home information and will keep a record of what I find. If and only if, difficult child asks for this information, will it be provided for her. I will not offer it, etc. husband is totally finished with- her and this time he means it. I can tell. I have been married to him for many years...he means it...big time x10. I am nearly there.... I am numb....but resigned to it all in a certain way. We have tried, tried and tried some more. There have been times difficult child has been willing to help herself grow...but many times that she is not. I can not force her to do things that she doesn't want to do. IT is concerning and sad because her issues are extreme, her decisions are extreme and the dangers/risk are extreme. I have not posted all that has happened in the last week...some of it I just learned about...it was big surprise. I tried my best. All I can do is hope for the best and move forward... [/QUOTE]
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