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<blockquote data-quote="muts80" data-source="post: 152006" data-attributes="member: 5177"><p>My difficult child is 9 1/2 and came home one day (about a month ago) telling me that he knew what sex was. I asked him who told him, and he said his friend "T" (who is 10). Then I asked him to tell me what sex was....and he said "it's when a boy and a girl lay together naked and kiss". Of course, you can imagine my reaction! I haven't even had "the talk" with him yet, so it bothers me that some kid already talked to him about it! To top that, he has (in his words) "made out" with this girl "T". So I'm thinking in my head...OMG, why are these kids learning this stuff so early now? I didn't know about this stuff until I was 11 or 12!!! And I found out from my MOTHER, not from some kid at school! So I guess all I'm saying is I FEEL YOUR SADNESS!! It breaks my heart that he is already aware of these things, and he still so little. The only advice I have for you is to keep doing what you are doing. You already talked to him about how friends should treat him...and that's something you need to remind him of every morning before school. Tell him that he deserves friends that respect him. That will definitely plant a seed in his head. And maybe he will think of that when something like this happens again. That's all you can do really. It's only going to get worse as they get older...they are going to have peer pressure everyday, trying to get them to do even worse things than smoking (as I'm sure you remember). But by you planting that seed, and reminding him often about respect, you have done what any good parent would do. After that, it's up to him. I know it's hard to "let go" at such an early age...but the pressure is already there, and there isn't much you can do about that...unless you keep him in a bubble (which I've concidered a few times in my difficult child's life LOL!!). And I think it's definitely a good idea to keep him and the other boy apart! That is totally your decision...and it's ok! I've had to do the same with my difficult child and "T". He's SOOO not happy with that, but he'll get over it. </p><p> </p><p>I hope my advice helped a little. Big hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="muts80, post: 152006, member: 5177"] My difficult child is 9 1/2 and came home one day (about a month ago) telling me that he knew what sex was. I asked him who told him, and he said his friend "T" (who is 10). Then I asked him to tell me what sex was....and he said "it's when a boy and a girl lay together naked and kiss". Of course, you can imagine my reaction! I haven't even had "the talk" with him yet, so it bothers me that some kid already talked to him about it! To top that, he has (in his words) "made out" with this girl "T". So I'm thinking in my head...OMG, why are these kids learning this stuff so early now? I didn't know about this stuff until I was 11 or 12!!! And I found out from my MOTHER, not from some kid at school! So I guess all I'm saying is I FEEL YOUR SADNESS!! It breaks my heart that he is already aware of these things, and he still so little. The only advice I have for you is to keep doing what you are doing. You already talked to him about how friends should treat him...and that's something you need to remind him of every morning before school. Tell him that he deserves friends that respect him. That will definitely plant a seed in his head. And maybe he will think of that when something like this happens again. That's all you can do really. It's only going to get worse as they get older...they are going to have peer pressure everyday, trying to get them to do even worse things than smoking (as I'm sure you remember). But by you planting that seed, and reminding him often about respect, you have done what any good parent would do. After that, it's up to him. I know it's hard to "let go" at such an early age...but the pressure is already there, and there isn't much you can do about that...unless you keep him in a bubble (which I've concidered a few times in my difficult child's life LOL!!). And I think it's definitely a good idea to keep him and the other boy apart! That is totally your decision...and it's ok! I've had to do the same with my difficult child and "T". He's SOOO not happy with that, but he'll get over it. I hope my advice helped a little. Big hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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