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<blockquote data-quote="tryinghard" data-source="post: 152175" data-attributes="member: 4570"><p>Crazymama,</p><p> </p><p>My heart goes out to you. My difficult child has done something very similar. With little impluse control he has stolen candy from a teachers desk, broken a neighbors glass window (not confessed until another neighbor told us what he had done), shot at a car with an air soft gun and then ran from our neighborhood security and the cars driver.</p><p> </p><p>After ALL of these events i was SICK to my stomach for weeks. My husband put things a little bit into perspective when he reminded me that it is our job as parents to use these moments to teach our children. </p><p> </p><p>It sounds like from your last post that is exactly what you did. BRAVO MOM!!!</p><p> </p><p>He reminded me that this gives us "teachable moments" while he is young, hopefully before he gets older and does something really bad with out the benefit of having a "teachable moment" earlier in life.</p><p> </p><p>Is it a guarantee that nothing will happen in the future, of course not...but I believe it plants a seed.</p><p> </p><p>I smoked a cigarette for the first time when I was in second grade! I am 42 so that was a while ago.:crazy1: My Dad smelled it on me when I came home. I can still remember the sadness in my father's eyes and how he explained to me that he had been a chain smoker before I was born. The day he held me for the first time, he vowed to quit because he wanted to live to see my kids. It broke my heart that I had let my father down. I NEVER touched a cigarette again, nor have I ever done any type of drugs. I drink socially and I have gotten drunk twice in my life. I am a very respectible and "normal" person!! </p><p> </p><p>I often wonder if that "teachable event" had not happened if I would have smoked and done other things as I got older? Who knows, but gosh did it leave an impression on my. It is burned in my mind like it was yesterday.</p><p> </p><p>If either of my kids had been caught smoking cigarette in second grade I would have thought they were doomed for a life of addiction!</p><p> </p><p>Please be gentle on yourself..you have set a great example by quitting. This is not your fault.</p><p> </p><p>I hope your heart is a little lighter today.</p><p>Kids do not always make the best decisions...for that matter..nor do adults some times!</p><p> </p><p>I am sure you already told difficult child that real friends do not ask you to do anything that is wrong and that no friend is worth getting into trouble for.....</p><p> </p><p>HUGS TO YOU AND difficult child...this too will pass<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tryinghard, post: 152175, member: 4570"] Crazymama, My heart goes out to you. My difficult child has done something very similar. With little impluse control he has stolen candy from a teachers desk, broken a neighbors glass window (not confessed until another neighbor told us what he had done), shot at a car with an air soft gun and then ran from our neighborhood security and the cars driver. After ALL of these events i was SICK to my stomach for weeks. My husband put things a little bit into perspective when he reminded me that it is our job as parents to use these moments to teach our children. It sounds like from your last post that is exactly what you did. BRAVO MOM!!! He reminded me that this gives us "teachable moments" while he is young, hopefully before he gets older and does something really bad with out the benefit of having a "teachable moment" earlier in life. Is it a guarantee that nothing will happen in the future, of course not...but I believe it plants a seed. I smoked a cigarette for the first time when I was in second grade! I am 42 so that was a while ago.:crazy1: My Dad smelled it on me when I came home. I can still remember the sadness in my father's eyes and how he explained to me that he had been a chain smoker before I was born. The day he held me for the first time, he vowed to quit because he wanted to live to see my kids. It broke my heart that I had let my father down. I NEVER touched a cigarette again, nor have I ever done any type of drugs. I drink socially and I have gotten drunk twice in my life. I am a very respectible and "normal" person!! I often wonder if that "teachable event" had not happened if I would have smoked and done other things as I got older? Who knows, but gosh did it leave an impression on my. It is burned in my mind like it was yesterday. If either of my kids had been caught smoking cigarette in second grade I would have thought they were doomed for a life of addiction! Please be gentle on yourself..you have set a great example by quitting. This is not your fault. I hope your heart is a little lighter today. Kids do not always make the best decisions...for that matter..nor do adults some times! I am sure you already told difficult child that real friends do not ask you to do anything that is wrong and that no friend is worth getting into trouble for..... HUGS TO YOU AND difficult child...this too will pass:knockedout: [/QUOTE]
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