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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 372893" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>You might want to wait until after first trimester. Just in case there are problems, you don't want to go through the hassle of telling everyone. I know a lot of celebs wait until after tat first danger period is past.</p><p></p><p>As for your sister, it would be wonderful if she was able to have her own child at the same time as you. Even if she ends up adopting or fostering. I remember a close friend who was trying to have kids but had problems, at the time I got pregnant with easy child 2/difficult child 2 (none of my pregnancies were planned; I was using contraception for mot of them). I felt very guilty and stayed away form my friend once the pregnancy became obvious. With hindsight it probably wasn't the right thing to do.</p><p>She did become pregnant a few years later then it was as if the way was opened and she went on to have three children.</p><p></p><p>As for my mother's unfortunate comment - she also said to me that I should talk to another sister of mine who had a termination (I hadn't known). So I obeyed my mother and talked to that sister, whose advice was to NOT terminate, although she was still glad of her choice. But it was HR choice, she said. And she had no doubts. She said if there were any doubts, to not do it. </p><p>I told Mum about the outcome of my conversation with sis, and Mum accepted my choice. Said that now at least it was a considered choice and she would of course welcome another grandchild. she was just worried about my disability and previous problems in pregnancy. She also apologised for her comment that she would have terminated - she said she had been glad of each and every one of us, but life was different back then.</p><p>Besides, I realised afterwards she wouldn't have had time to think of termination with me - she was 6 months pregnant before she found out!</p><p></p><p>Congrats on winning the baby blanket! And do make sure you take plenty of photos - there are few baby photos of me, I think the novelty had worn off. And coming from a big family, we did cop heaps.</p><p></p><p>Some years ago when concerns were raised by our (then) government about Australia's population not growing, Aussies were told to have at least three children. "One for each parent and one for the country."</p><p></p><p>See if that can help shut people up.</p><p></p><p>Good luck telling your sister. Tell her first, but tell your mother immediately after.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 372893, member: 1991"] You might want to wait until after first trimester. Just in case there are problems, you don't want to go through the hassle of telling everyone. I know a lot of celebs wait until after tat first danger period is past. As for your sister, it would be wonderful if she was able to have her own child at the same time as you. Even if she ends up adopting or fostering. I remember a close friend who was trying to have kids but had problems, at the time I got pregnant with easy child 2/difficult child 2 (none of my pregnancies were planned; I was using contraception for mot of them). I felt very guilty and stayed away form my friend once the pregnancy became obvious. With hindsight it probably wasn't the right thing to do. She did become pregnant a few years later then it was as if the way was opened and she went on to have three children. As for my mother's unfortunate comment - she also said to me that I should talk to another sister of mine who had a termination (I hadn't known). So I obeyed my mother and talked to that sister, whose advice was to NOT terminate, although she was still glad of her choice. But it was HR choice, she said. And she had no doubts. She said if there were any doubts, to not do it. I told Mum about the outcome of my conversation with sis, and Mum accepted my choice. Said that now at least it was a considered choice and she would of course welcome another grandchild. she was just worried about my disability and previous problems in pregnancy. She also apologised for her comment that she would have terminated - she said she had been glad of each and every one of us, but life was different back then. Besides, I realised afterwards she wouldn't have had time to think of termination with me - she was 6 months pregnant before she found out! Congrats on winning the baby blanket! And do make sure you take plenty of photos - there are few baby photos of me, I think the novelty had worn off. And coming from a big family, we did cop heaps. Some years ago when concerns were raised by our (then) government about Australia's population not growing, Aussies were told to have at least three children. "One for each parent and one for the country." See if that can help shut people up. Good luck telling your sister. Tell her first, but tell your mother immediately after. Marg [/QUOTE]
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