hi
i hope everyone's having a peaceful sunday.
difficult child's in the bubble bath right now, so i had to share this tale. I told exh a while back we are returning to outside pick up drop off as it was years ago. For us it was a multitude of reasons. He's crossing my boundaries and i do not feel comfortable with-him in my space (abusive marriage with-him; mainly verbal yet looked to throw stuff at me to hurt me), also due to difficult child who is fixated on him and i remarrying someday for the past ten years. We have been divorced ten years. Her seeing him in our space just isnt' good for her.
We had a few run in's with-him whereas my husband wasn't home and i asked exh to leave via text and he wouldn't. Very uncomfortable.
today he picks her up from outside, total attitude on him. I'm already sensing there will be issues at drop off. they go. they return i go outside to meet them. difficult child does not look at all happy. she goes in house. he says he wants to talk to me etc.
asks me why he cant' come in house. i told him the reasons yet again for 3rd time. does his whole i'm in charge thing with-difficult child, what docs she going to etc. meanwhile man has never once gone to a family therapy session, or pysch appointment.
and difficult child comes out to say bye to him, asks him why can't you come in. i say dad has to go somewhere, etc. let's go in you gotta get a bath i'll do your nails, and we have dinner cooking. i leave them to say goodbye.
next thing i know he's in my house, opened front door and begins walking in with-difficult child. saying why won't you let me come in your just hurting her, etc. being loud. i dropped immediately what i was doing in kitchen, grabbed my dog with whom does not like exh and walked towards door. he than backed himself out of the house.
i went outside and said to difficult child i'm so glad you had a great day now go inside. he continued i walked away and closed the door and he went away finally. than he texted me and harrassed me for an hr following leaving.
also he promised difficult child a singstand she spent week obsessing about it, dreaming about it. he took her to toys r us and said if it's over 70 i'm not getting it, meanwhile he knew the price. it was 74.99 and well let's just say she's been crying for an hour over that and also what he did. instead she got a barbie.
husband and i agreed we'd wait till this happened to get husband involved. yet at this point i'm thinking back to court i go. i can't have these types of scenes with-this child trying to get better. All the texts were bashing me, my parenting, why do you handle her like she's a guinea pig?? he hates medications, diagnosis's, says there is nothing wrong with-her still besides not eating.
so, instead of her having a nice calm dad visit she got this. i always said to myself when the day comes that he begins to verbally attack her if ever during visitation or begins his bs at my door i'll go back to court.
she loves him, always has, she does enjoy her time with him. yet wow to today
i hope everyone's having a peaceful sunday.
difficult child's in the bubble bath right now, so i had to share this tale. I told exh a while back we are returning to outside pick up drop off as it was years ago. For us it was a multitude of reasons. He's crossing my boundaries and i do not feel comfortable with-him in my space (abusive marriage with-him; mainly verbal yet looked to throw stuff at me to hurt me), also due to difficult child who is fixated on him and i remarrying someday for the past ten years. We have been divorced ten years. Her seeing him in our space just isnt' good for her.
We had a few run in's with-him whereas my husband wasn't home and i asked exh to leave via text and he wouldn't. Very uncomfortable.
today he picks her up from outside, total attitude on him. I'm already sensing there will be issues at drop off. they go. they return i go outside to meet them. difficult child does not look at all happy. she goes in house. he says he wants to talk to me etc.
asks me why he cant' come in house. i told him the reasons yet again for 3rd time. does his whole i'm in charge thing with-difficult child, what docs she going to etc. meanwhile man has never once gone to a family therapy session, or pysch appointment.
and difficult child comes out to say bye to him, asks him why can't you come in. i say dad has to go somewhere, etc. let's go in you gotta get a bath i'll do your nails, and we have dinner cooking. i leave them to say goodbye.
next thing i know he's in my house, opened front door and begins walking in with-difficult child. saying why won't you let me come in your just hurting her, etc. being loud. i dropped immediately what i was doing in kitchen, grabbed my dog with whom does not like exh and walked towards door. he than backed himself out of the house.
i went outside and said to difficult child i'm so glad you had a great day now go inside. he continued i walked away and closed the door and he went away finally. than he texted me and harrassed me for an hr following leaving.
also he promised difficult child a singstand she spent week obsessing about it, dreaming about it. he took her to toys r us and said if it's over 70 i'm not getting it, meanwhile he knew the price. it was 74.99 and well let's just say she's been crying for an hour over that and also what he did. instead she got a barbie.
husband and i agreed we'd wait till this happened to get husband involved. yet at this point i'm thinking back to court i go. i can't have these types of scenes with-this child trying to get better. All the texts were bashing me, my parenting, why do you handle her like she's a guinea pig?? he hates medications, diagnosis's, says there is nothing wrong with-her still besides not eating.
so, instead of her having a nice calm dad visit she got this. i always said to myself when the day comes that he begins to verbally attack her if ever during visitation or begins his bs at my door i'll go back to court.
she loves him, always has, she does enjoy her time with him. yet wow to today