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<blockquote data-quote="Anna1345" data-source="post: 117941" data-attributes="member: 4292"><p>Again, in my opinion, NO. You need to pick a currency (for us it is computer) and if he doesn't do what ever the assignments are, then no computer. If I were to accept BOTH the behavior AND allowing him his freedom to do whatever, then he would use that as a tool to get what he wants similar to toddler tantrums. It will become a known way for your son to get what he wants and to get out of doing his homework.</p><p></p><p>On the flip side to this, I always allow Michael a chance to earn back things. He needs to always know that HE, innately, has the power of what he gets in life; that he gets what he gives. If he doesn't do homework, that is fine, then he plays no computer. However, when he decides that he wants to do some homework, every 45 min of studying yields 10 min of computer time. If he completes his homework with out any argument or dawdling (appropriately of course and this doesn't include if he needs help with something) and on his own, he is free to do what he wants for the evening (again, appropriately of course).</p><p></p><p>We also use computer for behavior, chores, clean room... pretty much everything. HE LOVES playing the computer and it is very important to him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Anna1345, post: 117941, member: 4292"] Again, in my opinion, NO. You need to pick a currency (for us it is computer) and if he doesn't do what ever the assignments are, then no computer. If I were to accept BOTH the behavior AND allowing him his freedom to do whatever, then he would use that as a tool to get what he wants similar to toddler tantrums. It will become a known way for your son to get what he wants and to get out of doing his homework. On the flip side to this, I always allow Michael a chance to earn back things. He needs to always know that HE, innately, has the power of what he gets in life; that he gets what he gives. If he doesn't do homework, that is fine, then he plays no computer. However, when he decides that he wants to do some homework, every 45 min of studying yields 10 min of computer time. If he completes his homework with out any argument or dawdling (appropriately of course and this doesn't include if he needs help with something) and on his own, he is free to do what he wants for the evening (again, appropriately of course). We also use computer for behavior, chores, clean room... pretty much everything. HE LOVES playing the computer and it is very important to him. [/QUOTE]
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