I am preempting this with some background.... I used to be a teacher at a community college at our last duty station and since then I have been a stay at home mom privately tutoring on the side. I have tutored difficult children now for 5 years. In addition to private tutoring I work for Study Point. It is a place like Sylvan but very different in their approach and philosophy.
I just wanted you to know that I see two problems.
First Sylvan is not a great place to take g'sfg simply because of their philosophy. They don't intend tutoring to be a tool, rather a crutch. By that I mean it is the tutor's job to give the student the tools he or she needs to be able to do it on their own. Not for the student to rely on never being able to do it on their own with out the tutor. Does that make sense?
Second, you need to find your child's currency with out going too far. By that I mean, he needs the sports. Don't take those away. Sports are a good, healthy outlet (all kids need some sort of outlet) that does teach important things in life like team work, acceptance, tolerance, being a good looser AND winner, etc.However, electronics only rot the brain. lol. They are privileges NOT rights. The only rights these kids have are the follow:
loving parents
education
food
clothes
roof over their head
good health (this is where the sports come in)
everything else is a privilege that needs to be earned. When kids turn to being lazy, it has been my experience that it is because of one of three reasons: they either want attention OR they are completely not challenged OR it is a combination of the two.
There are a couple things you can try.... (and teacher will need to be on board for this to work)
1. When he gets home from school, engage him, every day, starting with 1st peroid.
"Okay difficult child, tell me what happened in English today?"
"I don't know, nothing"
"Well, what are you working on right now?"
"We're doing xyz"
"Did you have homework in it?"
"No"
"Let me see your stuff"
etc. doing this for every class. It forces him to recall what he did that day, remember it and talk about his homework
2. Have him write in his planner/agenda every day, every class. Get the teacher to sign off on it everyday so that you know what is written on there will be accurate (meaning he doesn't write "no HW" but he really has a "p.239 #1-20 even" for example). Simultaneously, you will initial each subject as you see it is completed. If you don't see it completed then you don't sign. THat way teacher knows it was not done, not that difficult child "forgot it" or "lost it". ALWAYS WRITE IN PEN int he planner
3. the rule has to be that if it is assigned and he gets class time to work on it, fine. However the teacher can not accept anything early. Meaning if he doesn't bring his home work home that he completed in class, then he re-does it at home. Once you have seen it, you will initial it on the paper. That way the teacher knows you have seen it and it is ready to be turned in.
4. In the beginning, EVERY BOOK comes home EVERYDAY.
5. Do not let him leave school before making sure his planner is filled out and the books are in his bag
6. Give MAJOR praise and small rewards for his accomplishments
7. ZERO computer until his grades are brought up -- if that means sending the power cord with the parent who leaves for work before he goes to school, then do it.
8. no yelling at him no matter how irresponsible he seems to be getting. Each day is a new day and tomorrow he will start over and try again. Some things are like getting mad at him because he is not growing fast enough. Some things (although they seem intentional) are not his fault.
I know this seems like a lot of hand holding, however it is NOT. Right now he lacks the ability (for whatever reason) to do what he needs to do on his own. It happens. This age and grade are HUGE transitions. So if he doesn't catch on right away, it is not a huge deal..... unless it gets ignored. With this type of plan, it forces him to be accountable. What will eventually happen is that, he will go to come home and realize, shoot, I forgot my math book. Got to go back and get it.
Then you will see that later he is able to come home and start homework on his own.
Then he will come home with all the correct books, start his homework AND finish it.
see the pattern?
Each child is different and this plan may need to be adjusted a bit to fit your child, however it works time and time again with children I have tutored and with my own son.
If none of this works or only works partially, it could be the environment he is in. I found the worse it got with my son, the worse his teacher got. She just didn't know how to deal with an ADHD kid with out breaking his spirit and demeaning him. Michael switched schools after the Christmas break and he is absolutely thriving! He is like a completely different kid.
I still do this plan, but have been able to let up some because he can now make sure he has the correct books and comes home and starts the hw all on his own. He has finally also realized that lying to me about assignments due or ones he had supposedly completed but really didn't was pointless because I ALWAYS find out because I have frequent contact with the teacher -- weekly and more if needed. He also has realized that even if he was supposed to do something and didn't, it is always better for him to tell me BEFORE I find out so I can help him get back on track.
Hang in there!