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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 382933" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>DF, good for you for trusting your gut feeling. That niggle exists for a reason.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This, THIS has GOT to be one of the hardest lessons to learn as a Warrior Parent. I think it's a combination of so many things:</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">we want so much for our children to do well, be trustworthy, do the right thing just ONCE</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">wondering if the behaviour is because of something we've done? ("Maybe I've been too hard on her? Maybe if I'm kind first it will model kindness for her and she'll reciprocate.")</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">disbelief that our child, who was such a sweet little baby, could really have turned into this hellion that we don't even recognize anymore half the time</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">the sweetness and charm that our difficult children seem to be able to turn on at the drop of a hat, when they need or want something from us.</li> </ul><p></p><p>And on top of that, keeping your guard up all the time is so much hard work. Sometimes it's easier to trust, and hope, and cross your fingers that this time she really means it and it will turn out well.</p><p></p><p>Fighting against all that is incredibly difficult. But the payoff is that it does get easier with time, you recognize the manipulations more quickly with time. And eventually, slowly, our difficult children start to realize that they can't get away with it, with us.</p><p></p><p>I'm very proud of you too, for sticking to your guns and seeing through the manipulation. Way to go!</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 382933, member: 3907"] DF, good for you for trusting your gut feeling. That niggle exists for a reason. This, THIS has GOT to be one of the hardest lessons to learn as a Warrior Parent. I think it's a combination of so many things: [LIST] [*]we want so much for our children to do well, be trustworthy, do the right thing just ONCE [*]wondering if the behaviour is because of something we've done? ("Maybe I've been too hard on her? Maybe if I'm kind first it will model kindness for her and she'll reciprocate.") [*]disbelief that our child, who was such a sweet little baby, could really have turned into this hellion that we don't even recognize anymore half the time [*]the sweetness and charm that our difficult children seem to be able to turn on at the drop of a hat, when they need or want something from us. [/LIST] And on top of that, keeping your guard up all the time is so much hard work. Sometimes it's easier to trust, and hope, and cross your fingers that this time she really means it and it will turn out well. Fighting against all that is incredibly difficult. But the payoff is that it does get easier with time, you recognize the manipulations more quickly with time. And eventually, slowly, our difficult children start to realize that they can't get away with it, with us. I'm very proud of you too, for sticking to your guns and seeing through the manipulation. Way to go! Trinity [/QUOTE]
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