I would check out the middle school class--perhaps at different times of the day on different days (try a Friday afternoon after lunch--as well as an early in the week morning)
I would never let a SD off for its motives unless parents were SURE that the intention is benign; however, SDs almost ALWAYS load their meetings so any parents feel outnumbered. Therefore, I wouldn't read too much into this.
The important thing is what is going to happen in middle school. It is a very crucial time in the life of a difficult child--either a chance to improve for middle/late adolescence, or go the other way. I don't mean to make you more anxious, but through all of these posts, I have been focused on the middle school experience for a reason--both professionally and been there done that.
Martie
