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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 215261" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>About the whole thing - I would thank her for being honest. (If she wasn't being totally honest, it will make her feel bad. If she WAS - she deserves a pat on the back).</p><p></p><p>As for the self-medicating - it's good tat she was thinking laterally and realised she needed help, but pot is not the answer, it can cause too many other problems further down the track. It is obvious that she has just admitted to needing help; so she shouldn't argue about getting the RIGHT help from legal drugs or therapy, rather than risking problems legal and health, using pot. Smoking ANYTHING is bad for your lungs. Smoking pot is ten times worse. Taking prescription pills is NOT bad for your lungs and is probably also better for your mental health. It's also cheaper, because she won't have to pay the local drug pushers for her medications.</p><p></p><p>All this is, of course, calling her bluff if she is lying, and making her treatment more manageable is she is telling you the truth.</p><p></p><p>As for the condoms - I'd be cheering. She's going to have sex, then it's good it's with a caring bloke who loves her and can make sure her experience is loving and positive (and to a certain extent under her control). This will do more to help her heal than anything else.</p><p></p><p>We went through this with easy child - she was abused at the age of 5 and for years was terrified of sex and anything associated with growing up and sexuality. It took a very understanding BF1 to help her recovery here.</p><p></p><p>I took my kids shopping for condoms - I made sure that they knew what to buy and how to buy them. I bought some, took them home and showed them where we keep them and invited them to help themselves. Not only did this ensure sexual responsibility, it also totally took the romance out of illicit teen sex. There's nothing like using condoms your mother bought at the supermarket, with you in tow with cheeks flaming, to put you off the idea of having sex at all for another few years...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 215261, member: 1991"] About the whole thing - I would thank her for being honest. (If she wasn't being totally honest, it will make her feel bad. If she WAS - she deserves a pat on the back). As for the self-medicating - it's good tat she was thinking laterally and realised she needed help, but pot is not the answer, it can cause too many other problems further down the track. It is obvious that she has just admitted to needing help; so she shouldn't argue about getting the RIGHT help from legal drugs or therapy, rather than risking problems legal and health, using pot. Smoking ANYTHING is bad for your lungs. Smoking pot is ten times worse. Taking prescription pills is NOT bad for your lungs and is probably also better for your mental health. It's also cheaper, because she won't have to pay the local drug pushers for her medications. All this is, of course, calling her bluff if she is lying, and making her treatment more manageable is she is telling you the truth. As for the condoms - I'd be cheering. She's going to have sex, then it's good it's with a caring bloke who loves her and can make sure her experience is loving and positive (and to a certain extent under her control). This will do more to help her heal than anything else. We went through this with easy child - she was abused at the age of 5 and for years was terrified of sex and anything associated with growing up and sexuality. It took a very understanding BF1 to help her recovery here. I took my kids shopping for condoms - I made sure that they knew what to buy and how to buy them. I bought some, took them home and showed them where we keep them and invited them to help themselves. Not only did this ensure sexual responsibility, it also totally took the romance out of illicit teen sex. There's nothing like using condoms your mother bought at the supermarket, with you in tow with cheeks flaming, to put you off the idea of having sex at all for another few years... Marg [/QUOTE]
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