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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 673043" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Thank you Nancy you are very kind.</p><p>I am trying to work through a lot of stuff right now. I would never mean to try to cause dissension here on CD. It has been a respite for me.</p><p>It is true that things can be readily misinterpreted between emotion and typed words. I appreciate your perspective . I think in a way, we are saying the same thing in a different light. The love is always there, the substance abuse and lifestyle can cause a lot of frustration and grief.</p><p></p><p>My post was my trying to see things in a different way, to help release me from the dismay of it all.</p><p> I am trying to gather up 'tools" and share them as well.</p><p></p><p>It was very difficult for me to see my daughter walk out the door. She was a bit of a mess, despondent, and speaking literally of being abused by a man, and not able to get away from him. That struck a deep chord in me, domestic violence ran rampant in my husbands background.</p><p>I offered to take her to a DV shelter, to a rehab, but she would have none of it, telling me </p><p>"Those places are horrible, obviously you have never been to one."</p><p>In the course of this conversation, I remained as calm as possible. While inside of me there was a battle going on.</p><p></p><p>I realize that there is no way my daughter can stay with us. She is not ready to help herself. I cannot begin to help someone who will not help themselves. No one can.</p><p></p><p>So, I must continue to try to build myself up and live my life. Rather than go down the road of awfullizing, I want to think on the hope, and the possibilities my two have. It is a concentrated effort, a lot of work.</p><p></p><p>I thank you for sharing and not being offended at my words. </p><p>I will think more deeply, before I write and be more careful.</p><p></p><p>I would not want to cause problems here, Lord knows everyone has enough on their plates already.</p><p></p><p>Sigh.</p><p></p><p>Thank you again for all you do.</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 673043, member: 19522"] Thank you Nancy you are very kind. I am trying to work through a lot of stuff right now. I would never mean to try to cause dissension here on CD. It has been a respite for me. It is true that things can be readily misinterpreted between emotion and typed words. I appreciate your perspective . I think in a way, we are saying the same thing in a different light. The love is always there, the substance abuse and lifestyle can cause a lot of frustration and grief. My post was my trying to see things in a different way, to help release me from the dismay of it all. I am trying to gather up 'tools" and share them as well. It was very difficult for me to see my daughter walk out the door. She was a bit of a mess, despondent, and speaking literally of being abused by a man, and not able to get away from him. That struck a deep chord in me, domestic violence ran rampant in my husbands background. I offered to take her to a DV shelter, to a rehab, but she would have none of it, telling me "Those places are horrible, obviously you have never been to one." In the course of this conversation, I remained as calm as possible. While inside of me there was a battle going on. I realize that there is no way my daughter can stay with us. She is not ready to help herself. I cannot begin to help someone who will not help themselves. No one can. So, I must continue to try to build myself up and live my life. Rather than go down the road of awfullizing, I want to think on the hope, and the possibilities my two have. It is a concentrated effort, a lot of work. I thank you for sharing and not being offended at my words. I will think more deeply, before I write and be more careful. I would not want to cause problems here, Lord knows everyone has enough on their plates already. Sigh. Thank you again for all you do. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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