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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 673103" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I did not hear New Leaf looking for positives in the way her children were living. I heard the opposite. I heard her saying that <em>she has chosen to live from the belief that they can get a hold of their lives and live meaningfully. </em></p><p></p><p>By holding this belief she is then able to feel control in her own life and live meaningfully.</p><p></p><p>New Leaf as I read her words believes that life is all of it a challenge, little of which we can control. We can only choose how we see and respond to what comes at us, and what we have faced in the past, and understand that too. </p><p></p><p>I think that is the context through which she is speaking. </p><p>Yes.</p><p>Thank you, Insane.</p><p>Yes. A challenge to us to make ourselves and our lives our own. The way we respond to life's challenges is the only thing that we have. That is what I thought New Leaf was saying.</p><p>Yes. Even for us.</p><p>Does this not go both ways? To be careful about responses so as to not offend?</p><p>New Leaf, your replies are invariably generous and loving and inclusive. You are a gift to us. Each of us responds to our challenges by going in our own ways. </p><p></p><p>The kind of open communication you have encouraged on your thread is a good thing. For me.</p><p>I came to this forum following New Leaf. I too do not make note of forums. I will be more careful in the future. My son does not use hard drugs as far as I know. But we have lived through 10 years of conflict, homelessness, hospitalizations, chronic illness, and more. </p><p>Yes.</p><p>I did not read judgment. There are as many ways to respond to difficult children as there are parents. Do not each of these parents merit a safe place?</p><p>Again, I did not read anything that intimated there was anything positive about the way our children are living. </p><p></p><p>The term, Gift from God gets at what I believe was the intention of this thread. That we as parents have a choice as to how we respond to the challenge we are given by the current state and circumstances of our children.</p><p>Thank you, New Leaf. I am grateful for your support. Thank you.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 673103, member: 18958"] I did not hear New Leaf looking for positives in the way her children were living. I heard the opposite. I heard her saying that [I]she has chosen to live from the belief that they can get a hold of their lives and live meaningfully. [/I] By holding this belief she is then able to feel control in her own life and live meaningfully. New Leaf as I read her words believes that life is all of it a challenge, little of which we can control. We can only choose how we see and respond to what comes at us, and what we have faced in the past, and understand that too. I think that is the context through which she is speaking. Yes. Thank you, Insane. Yes. A challenge to us to make ourselves and our lives our own. The way we respond to life's challenges is the only thing that we have. That is what I thought New Leaf was saying. Yes. Even for us. Does this not go both ways? To be careful about responses so as to not offend? New Leaf, your replies are invariably generous and loving and inclusive. You are a gift to us. Each of us responds to our challenges by going in our own ways. The kind of open communication you have encouraged on your thread is a good thing. For me. I came to this forum following New Leaf. I too do not make note of forums. I will be more careful in the future. My son does not use hard drugs as far as I know. But we have lived through 10 years of conflict, homelessness, hospitalizations, chronic illness, and more. Yes. I did not read judgment. There are as many ways to respond to difficult children as there are parents. Do not each of these parents merit a safe place? Again, I did not read anything that intimated there was anything positive about the way our children are living. The term, Gift from God gets at what I believe was the intention of this thread. That we as parents have a choice as to how we respond to the challenge we are given by the current state and circumstances of our children. Thank you, New Leaf. I am grateful for your support. Thank you. COPA [/QUOTE]
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