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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 410314" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I do agree with Janet on if you have the paperwork to back up the dxes/symptoms ect I'd show them to social security.........as most people who are severely mentally ill rarely believe they are, I'm sure they've have experience with it before. And definately if I ever saw evidence that indicates she may hurt herself or others via fb or anything else I'd use it against her for at the very least a 72 hr hold. Doesn't matter if you believe she will or not, it may be what you need to convince others how affected by her dxes she truly is. </p><p></p><p>Hmm. I'm not sure you can do this once a child has already reached adulthood. But my son in law's mother fostered a teen who was severely affected by her mental illness, so much so that on her 18th birthday the state decided that she would forever remain a ward of the state and remain under trained supervision. Not in a hospital, because I'm not even sure if our state has any type of real long term facility, but in foster homes with adults trained to care for her........which is not much training but better than nothing which is what she would've had otherwise. You might see if something such as this would be available.....if the state found her incompetent to be able to live on her own. I'd never even heard of this ever being done until it was done with this foster child.</p><p></p><p>This is what really makes me mad with our so called "modern" methods of treating mental illness. Somewhere along the lines we managed to forget that there are those who are so mentally ill that they simply are not able to function within society. Then the families of these people are left to deal with it as best as they can........which is nearly impossible because services are limited and with an adult you usually have to get them to agree to such services, unless you can get a court to take it out of your hands. Here in ohio many of these people wind up wards of the state and are placed in nursing homes.......yes, a scary thought that, but there is no where else for them to go.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, about all you can do is to make sure you and the rest of the family is safe. Unless there is reason for the state to step in, you can't force your daughter to do anything. The choices are hers to make, no matter how bad they are. Stinks, but that is the way it is. I'm thinking if you rent some place for her to stay that not only rent, you'll be responsible for any damages to the apartment as well.......or if she skips out on the lease ect. If she has no income are you also willing to pay for utilities and food? What about clothing? Furnishings? I can see that blooming into so many other things.....and can imagine her response if you tell her no on these things most likely. So I'd try to make a list of all the pros and cons before coming to that decision and see if it really is worth it, or if it is only going to cause more of the same old same old. (I'm guessing you're dealing with some entitlement issues too probably)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 410314, member: 84"] I do agree with Janet on if you have the paperwork to back up the dxes/symptoms ect I'd show them to social security.........as most people who are severely mentally ill rarely believe they are, I'm sure they've have experience with it before. And definately if I ever saw evidence that indicates she may hurt herself or others via fb or anything else I'd use it against her for at the very least a 72 hr hold. Doesn't matter if you believe she will or not, it may be what you need to convince others how affected by her dxes she truly is. Hmm. I'm not sure you can do this once a child has already reached adulthood. But my son in law's mother fostered a teen who was severely affected by her mental illness, so much so that on her 18th birthday the state decided that she would forever remain a ward of the state and remain under trained supervision. Not in a hospital, because I'm not even sure if our state has any type of real long term facility, but in foster homes with adults trained to care for her........which is not much training but better than nothing which is what she would've had otherwise. You might see if something such as this would be available.....if the state found her incompetent to be able to live on her own. I'd never even heard of this ever being done until it was done with this foster child. This is what really makes me mad with our so called "modern" methods of treating mental illness. Somewhere along the lines we managed to forget that there are those who are so mentally ill that they simply are not able to function within society. Then the families of these people are left to deal with it as best as they can........which is nearly impossible because services are limited and with an adult you usually have to get them to agree to such services, unless you can get a court to take it out of your hands. Here in ohio many of these people wind up wards of the state and are placed in nursing homes.......yes, a scary thought that, but there is no where else for them to go. Unfortunately, about all you can do is to make sure you and the rest of the family is safe. Unless there is reason for the state to step in, you can't force your daughter to do anything. The choices are hers to make, no matter how bad they are. Stinks, but that is the way it is. I'm thinking if you rent some place for her to stay that not only rent, you'll be responsible for any damages to the apartment as well.......or if she skips out on the lease ect. If she has no income are you also willing to pay for utilities and food? What about clothing? Furnishings? I can see that blooming into so many other things.....and can imagine her response if you tell her no on these things most likely. So I'd try to make a list of all the pros and cons before coming to that decision and see if it really is worth it, or if it is only going to cause more of the same old same old. (I'm guessing you're dealing with some entitlement issues too probably) [/QUOTE]
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