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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 410891"><p>Tons of great advice here: I wish my sister would read this thread of posts (she won't--massively in denial, would rather throw money at the problem than admit its severity, and has spent 18 years spoiling her difficult child rotten and isn't going to stop soon). For her, simply subsidizing her difficult child in a cheap apartment, paying the rent, paying for groceries, giving him a car and gas allowance and a small cash allowance is cheaper than sending him to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or rehab, so she accepts the expense as the "cost of doing business" with a difficult child child. Of course, you can only do this if you're loaded and if you don't care about ever getting the difficult child off your dole and onto the rails of adulthood. But I think she's largely given up and sees this as the easiest/simplest route, at least for now. I agree with all of you that it's much more important to push them out and let them make their mistakes, maybe even bad mistakes, but at least have a shot at learning and becoming, however gradually, self-reliant. It may not work at all, and very bad things can happen along the way--even prison and death, if it goes that far--but at least it's an attempt at steering the difficult child toward some dim semblance of maturity. Better to try and risk failure than to make no attempt at all, I think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 410891"] Tons of great advice here: I wish my sister would read this thread of posts (she won't--massively in denial, would rather throw money at the problem than admit its severity, and has spent 18 years spoiling her difficult child rotten and isn't going to stop soon). For her, simply subsidizing her difficult child in a cheap apartment, paying the rent, paying for groceries, giving him a car and gas allowance and a small cash allowance is cheaper than sending him to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or rehab, so she accepts the expense as the "cost of doing business" with a difficult child child. Of course, you can only do this if you're loaded and if you don't care about ever getting the difficult child off your dole and onto the rails of adulthood. But I think she's largely given up and sees this as the easiest/simplest route, at least for now. I agree with all of you that it's much more important to push them out and let them make their mistakes, maybe even bad mistakes, but at least have a shot at learning and becoming, however gradually, self-reliant. It may not work at all, and very bad things can happen along the way--even prison and death, if it goes that far--but at least it's an attempt at steering the difficult child toward some dim semblance of maturity. Better to try and risk failure than to make no attempt at all, I think. [/QUOTE]
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