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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 279919" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>It's been almost forty years since I faced that issue and truly hoped that "someone" could give me the right answer for my family. Sad to say...it just doesn't work that way. Although my husband was attractive, faithful, successful and still thought I was "hot", he and I were in total disagreement on difficult child. difficult child truly drove me crazy then and still drives me crazy now BUT I felt I had an obligation to do everything possible to make her as "normal" as possible. Ex wanted her out of the family so the easy child kids, he and I could continue to live the happy lifestyle we had enjoyed.</p><p> </p><p>I hated the environment that was in our home. I did not want to be the first ever family member to divorce. Finally, I opted for "a separation" with counseling to reunite us. It hurt Ex. It hurt the PCs. It really hurt difficult child who suspected her influence. It hurt me and my entire family. I stuck to the mantra "we are just separated for awhile and are getting counseling and then probably everything will be better than ever". NOT!</p><p> </p><p>All three of my children suffered emotionally from my decision. Even the PCs had to go into counseling because once their Dad was no longer at our house, he moved on to a sweet young thing PDQ. She did not like kids and he felt like a "man" again. This week difficult child's younger son (difficult child who lived with us for seven years) graduated from high school. Ex and his 5th wife attended. Care to guess whom he sat next to for the ceremony? difficult child! Yep, the very one he wanted to institutionalize!</p><p> </p><p>It's you choice and yours alone. You'll have to take responsibility for it.The results will last a lifetime .... so take your time. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 279919, member: 35"] It's been almost forty years since I faced that issue and truly hoped that "someone" could give me the right answer for my family. Sad to say...it just doesn't work that way. Although my husband was attractive, faithful, successful and still thought I was "hot", he and I were in total disagreement on difficult child. difficult child truly drove me crazy then and still drives me crazy now BUT I felt I had an obligation to do everything possible to make her as "normal" as possible. Ex wanted her out of the family so the easy child kids, he and I could continue to live the happy lifestyle we had enjoyed. I hated the environment that was in our home. I did not want to be the first ever family member to divorce. Finally, I opted for "a separation" with counseling to reunite us. It hurt Ex. It hurt the PCs. It really hurt difficult child who suspected her influence. It hurt me and my entire family. I stuck to the mantra "we are just separated for awhile and are getting counseling and then probably everything will be better than ever". NOT! All three of my children suffered emotionally from my decision. Even the PCs had to go into counseling because once their Dad was no longer at our house, he moved on to a sweet young thing PDQ. She did not like kids and he felt like a "man" again. This week difficult child's younger son (difficult child who lived with us for seven years) graduated from high school. Ex and his 5th wife attended. Care to guess whom he sat next to for the ceremony? difficult child! Yep, the very one he wanted to institutionalize! It's you choice and yours alone. You'll have to take responsibility for it.The results will last a lifetime .... so take your time. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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