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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 319741" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>WNC, I understand wanting to fill the void. I also wonder how old the younger kids are, and the impact on them. I hate to encourage you to stay in the marriage and have more affairs, but unless your husband is violent, sometimes it is best to stay for the kids. Does he do <em>any</em> parenting? What would change for the kids if you divorced?</p><p>Your difficult child can be on his own in 2 yrs. Will the marriage change then? </p><p>What is your husband's relationship with-the normal kids like?</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like you've made up your mind at this point, although divorces can take a long time. Which one of you will move out? Where will the kids stay? (by the way, that book sounds interesting.)</p><p> </p><p>Someone very close to me had paperwork drawn up for divorce 2 yrs ago. She changed her mind and it sat there. She changed her mind again this yr and had it delivered. She changed her mind again and decided to stay for the sake of her 16-yr-old son. Only 2 more yrs, she reasons. Plus, the paperwork is already done. (Like your husband, hers was more interested in the financial issues, which made her even angrier.)</p><p>In the meantime, she has redone the kitchen and made the house ready to sell when the market is right.</p><p>You've got to think about finances, too.</p><p>Take it slowly and make a good plan.</p><p>Have you told your husband or kids yet?</p><p> </p><p>Best of luck. I understand your hurt. It is so very, very hard. {{hugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 319741, member: 3419"] WNC, I understand wanting to fill the void. I also wonder how old the younger kids are, and the impact on them. I hate to encourage you to stay in the marriage and have more affairs, but unless your husband is violent, sometimes it is best to stay for the kids. Does he do [I]any[/I] parenting? What would change for the kids if you divorced? Your difficult child can be on his own in 2 yrs. Will the marriage change then? What is your husband's relationship with-the normal kids like? It sounds like you've made up your mind at this point, although divorces can take a long time. Which one of you will move out? Where will the kids stay? (by the way, that book sounds interesting.) Someone very close to me had paperwork drawn up for divorce 2 yrs ago. She changed her mind and it sat there. She changed her mind again this yr and had it delivered. She changed her mind again and decided to stay for the sake of her 16-yr-old son. Only 2 more yrs, she reasons. Plus, the paperwork is already done. (Like your husband, hers was more interested in the financial issues, which made her even angrier.) In the meantime, she has redone the kitchen and made the house ready to sell when the market is right. You've got to think about finances, too. Take it slowly and make a good plan. Have you told your husband or kids yet? Best of luck. I understand your hurt. It is so very, very hard. {{hugs}} [/QUOTE]
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