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<blockquote data-quote="Mickey2255" data-source="post: 45095" data-attributes="member: 3720"><p>Ella,</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you posted about this! It really got me to thinking. My difficult child is 9 and while he hasn't expressed that he finds hurting himself relaxing (he has expressive speech issues so this isn't all that surprising) he does love for me to PUSH on him. We do this massage fashion but instead of manipulating the muscles like a regular massage, he just wants me to push on him from head to toe with pretty much all my weight behind it. He loves for me to do this just before bed. </p><p></p><p>So I'm thinking - what my son asks for most people would think of as a bit odd, but not necessarily "bad". Perhaps your difficult child is getting the same thing out of what he's doing but because it just looks a bit more closely to self-mutilation, our reactions to it are much stronger. </p><p></p><p>Has anyone ever said anything about Sensory Integration Disorder? Maybe he's hypo-sensitive and needs that extra stimulation? Have you ever tried deep tissue massage techniques with him to see if he liked it and found it relaxing? Keep in mind that some people "need" or like a much deeper tissue massage than others. I'm one of those - a mamby pamby sissy massage is just annoying and most people who know me would find that surprising since I'm pretty small and appear to be rather mild!</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p><p>Michelle</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mickey2255, post: 45095, member: 3720"] Ella, I'm glad you posted about this! It really got me to thinking. My difficult child is 9 and while he hasn't expressed that he finds hurting himself relaxing (he has expressive speech issues so this isn't all that surprising) he does love for me to PUSH on him. We do this massage fashion but instead of manipulating the muscles like a regular massage, he just wants me to push on him from head to toe with pretty much all my weight behind it. He loves for me to do this just before bed. So I'm thinking - what my son asks for most people would think of as a bit odd, but not necessarily "bad". Perhaps your difficult child is getting the same thing out of what he's doing but because it just looks a bit more closely to self-mutilation, our reactions to it are much stronger. Has anyone ever said anything about Sensory Integration Disorder? Maybe he's hypo-sensitive and needs that extra stimulation? Have you ever tried deep tissue massage techniques with him to see if he liked it and found it relaxing? Keep in mind that some people "need" or like a much deeper tissue massage than others. I'm one of those - a mamby pamby sissy massage is just annoying and most people who know me would find that surprising since I'm pretty small and appear to be rather mild! Good luck! Michelle [/QUOTE]
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