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selling my soul for them- should I?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 123626" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Hmmm, I think that is just maybe TOO much time with a person you have issues with.</p><p> </p><p>Every time I have contact with my mother in person I am back to a bad place in time- I will be 58 this year, but my mother doesn't see that woman, she only sees a 17 year old and has this need to bring up each and everything I ever did wrong. Logically I know she just cannot get past it for whatever reason (believe me, there is no such thing as letting her vent and get it out of her system - that cork is firmly welded on and its just the same thing reguritated over and over and over again) and in the meantime I have moved on and grew up and came to terms that like in life, with people you meet, sometimes there is not a good personality match, and the same holds true with family members. I will never be the daughter she wanted, nor will she ever be the mother I had wished for. It S ucks eggs, but there it is.</p><p> </p><p>Just be prepared for finding yourself in a time warp. My beliefs in the hereafter are that there is a next life and you get to come back and work on unresolved issues and problems. I am trying to take the high road and make nice cause the thought of having to do a life all over again with her makes me want to claw at my eyes in this life <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>I think I would just see how dinner goes and play it by ear. I have always been a believer in kids should get to know the family - I just don't want to have to participate in that too much with people who I have a toxic relationship with.</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 123626, member: 47"] Hmmm, I think that is just maybe TOO much time with a person you have issues with. Every time I have contact with my mother in person I am back to a bad place in time- I will be 58 this year, but my mother doesn't see that woman, she only sees a 17 year old and has this need to bring up each and everything I ever did wrong. Logically I know she just cannot get past it for whatever reason (believe me, there is no such thing as letting her vent and get it out of her system - that cork is firmly welded on and its just the same thing reguritated over and over and over again) and in the meantime I have moved on and grew up and came to terms that like in life, with people you meet, sometimes there is not a good personality match, and the same holds true with family members. I will never be the daughter she wanted, nor will she ever be the mother I had wished for. It S ucks eggs, but there it is. Just be prepared for finding yourself in a time warp. My beliefs in the hereafter are that there is a next life and you get to come back and work on unresolved issues and problems. I am trying to take the high road and make nice cause the thought of having to do a life all over again with her makes me want to claw at my eyes in this life :) I think I would just see how dinner goes and play it by ear. I have always been a believer in kids should get to know the family - I just don't want to have to participate in that too much with people who I have a toxic relationship with. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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