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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 123672" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Oh, no no no no no! <em>Who</em> made <em>that</em> plan? I <em>have to</em> know it wasn't you. Lunch or dinner I could do, if I absolutely had to, for my kids. <em>If</em> that is what my kids wanted to do. Honestly, your husband did not grow up in your house, and as much as he thinks he can understand the way you feel and why you feel that way, he can't.</p><p></p><p>That being said, if that is the arrangement you made when you spoke to your father, that's what you have to do. And to quote all of the old adages, "if a thing is worth doing, it's worth doing well." Believe me, on this one thing, I know exactly how you feel. Remember what happened to the Wise Men and the manger scene at <em>my</em> house last Christmas? Thank God the only ones there to see it were my husband and the dogs. But this is one day out of your life. It's not your childhood all over again, it's just one day, and it's probably going to be a crummy one, so all you can do is make the best of it.</p><p></p><p>The only ones who need to learn a lesson out of this is your kids. And the lesson you want them to learn is that you were gracious and found a way to make it work. If Grandma wants to be a witch, they can see that, and they should see that you handled it with grace and style. Before, during and after. Personally, to make this work for me, this would involve diamonds. For me. Or maybe a new sofa or a flat screen. If I thought I could just keep my eye on that prize and keep my mouth shut, that would be it. I have my reward for behaving.</p><p></p><p>If I thought I might slip up, I would set a budget for my ultimate diamond earring or sofa or whatever it is. Then if I really thought it was going to be a challenge, I'd either wipe out $25 from my budget every time I slipped up, or start low and reward myself $25 for every time I let one of their snarky remarks slide. You need to let your husband know that since this is his idea, it's <em>his</em> job to step in when needed. </p><p></p><p>Absolutely no fighting or complaining about this, either with your parents or with your husband, in front of your kids. The one thing you want them to come away from this with is the idea that even with family a family member that you can't stand, you can be pleasant and move one when it's over.</p><p></p><p>Enjoy those diamonds, girlfriend. You'll earn every little bit of them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 123672, member: 99"] Oh, no no no no no! [i]Who[/i] made [i]that[/i] plan? I [i]have to[/i] know it wasn't you. Lunch or dinner I could do, if I absolutely had to, for my kids. [i]If[/i] that is what my kids wanted to do. Honestly, your husband did not grow up in your house, and as much as he thinks he can understand the way you feel and why you feel that way, he can't. That being said, if that is the arrangement you made when you spoke to your father, that's what you have to do. And to quote all of the old adages, "if a thing is worth doing, it's worth doing well." Believe me, on this one thing, I know exactly how you feel. Remember what happened to the Wise Men and the manger scene at [i]my[/i] house last Christmas? Thank God the only ones there to see it were my husband and the dogs. But this is one day out of your life. It's not your childhood all over again, it's just one day, and it's probably going to be a crummy one, so all you can do is make the best of it. The only ones who need to learn a lesson out of this is your kids. And the lesson you want them to learn is that you were gracious and found a way to make it work. If Grandma wants to be a witch, they can see that, and they should see that you handled it with grace and style. Before, during and after. Personally, to make this work for me, this would involve diamonds. For me. Or maybe a new sofa or a flat screen. If I thought I could just keep my eye on that prize and keep my mouth shut, that would be it. I have my reward for behaving. If I thought I might slip up, I would set a budget for my ultimate diamond earring or sofa or whatever it is. Then if I really thought it was going to be a challenge, I'd either wipe out $25 from my budget every time I slipped up, or start low and reward myself $25 for every time I let one of their snarky remarks slide. You need to let your husband know that since this is his idea, it's [i]his[/i] job to step in when needed. Absolutely no fighting or complaining about this, either with your parents or with your husband, in front of your kids. The one thing you want them to come away from this with is the idea that even with family a family member that you can't stand, you can be pleasant and move one when it's over. Enjoy those diamonds, girlfriend. You'll earn every little bit of them. [/QUOTE]
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