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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 137848" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>How do I not care? Well, he's NOT in danger. He is very well off financially. He is brilliant. He isn't some young adult who can't think straight and has spent time in jail maybe due to mental health issues. He is being cold and calculating on purpose. I went through all the grieving stages, and am still in therapy and I just decided I can't let him hold our lives hostage anymore. I have four other children, two have SO's who I love much, and I have a grandson on the way. This child had my heart and soul and he doesn't want it anymore. Maybe if I didn't have so many kids it would be hard to let go, but I don't have any choice here. So I moved on myself, and I really don't care anymore. I can't cry anymore tears. I can't e-mail him and write him letters and leave loving voicemails. I just became numb and I really don't care anymore. That doesn't mean I don't love him. It means I feel cold towards him, and am choosing to focus on those who do want me in their lives. Also, he hurt his sister, my daughter, soooooooo much, and she is my child too. Enough is enough.</p><p>But I still don't know if I should send a card. I'm reading everyone's responses and thinking it over. If I don't send one, I sent a message to him. If I do, I sent a message to him. Last Easter he didn't join the family, rather he invited a family "who have no family" to join he and his wife for Easter. He could have brought them to our family gathering, but preferred to spent Easter with strangers and cut us out. After a while, even a mother burns out. At least, THIS mother burned out. I will always welcome him back into my life, but I'm not waiting on pins and needles. He has yet to call his brother to congratulate him on expecting a child (his nephew). I mean, one can only take so much...</p><p>Also, I have NO expectation that I'll hear from him. He has never responded before. It wouldn't make me feel bad if he didn't respond because that's what he does (or doesn't) do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 137848, member: 1550"] How do I not care? Well, he's NOT in danger. He is very well off financially. He is brilliant. He isn't some young adult who can't think straight and has spent time in jail maybe due to mental health issues. He is being cold and calculating on purpose. I went through all the grieving stages, and am still in therapy and I just decided I can't let him hold our lives hostage anymore. I have four other children, two have SO's who I love much, and I have a grandson on the way. This child had my heart and soul and he doesn't want it anymore. Maybe if I didn't have so many kids it would be hard to let go, but I don't have any choice here. So I moved on myself, and I really don't care anymore. I can't cry anymore tears. I can't e-mail him and write him letters and leave loving voicemails. I just became numb and I really don't care anymore. That doesn't mean I don't love him. It means I feel cold towards him, and am choosing to focus on those who do want me in their lives. Also, he hurt his sister, my daughter, soooooooo much, and she is my child too. Enough is enough. But I still don't know if I should send a card. I'm reading everyone's responses and thinking it over. If I don't send one, I sent a message to him. If I do, I sent a message to him. Last Easter he didn't join the family, rather he invited a family "who have no family" to join he and his wife for Easter. He could have brought them to our family gathering, but preferred to spent Easter with strangers and cut us out. After a while, even a mother burns out. At least, THIS mother burned out. I will always welcome him back into my life, but I'm not waiting on pins and needles. He has yet to call his brother to congratulate him on expecting a child (his nephew). I mean, one can only take so much... Also, I have NO expectation that I'll hear from him. He has never responded before. It wouldn't make me feel bad if he didn't respond because that's what he does (or doesn't) do. [/QUOTE]
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