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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 490317" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>What a really nice and insightful post, Nancy. It's great that you have reason to be cautiously optimistic about difficult child's future. My fingers remain crossed.</p><p></p><p>This may be a little off topic but in watching a program recently I had an "ah ha" moment. The recovering addict explained why he had to stay isolated with others in recovery (ten years I think). What he said that I had never thought of before was this. "Addicts recognize one another no matter what the social setting or work setting may be. If I am in a crowd of people who are unknown to me I can easily identify and be identified as an addict. It's just a look of recognition that passes when eyes meet. We "know" each other even though we are complete strangers. I guarantee you that even the exchange of looks for a moment triggers memories and sometimes passing need to use. That is why I eliminated all socialization which includes people that I am not completely sure are living a happy healthy life."</p><p></p><p>I had never thought about that before but in retrospect I realize that difficult child "sees" things that I don't see. He hones in on people who are users, sellers etc. in an uncanny way. The old expression "It takes one to know one" evidently makes the outside world an unhealthy place for someone who is attempting to get clean and stay clean. Like I said...it was an "ah ha" moment.</p><p></p><p>So glad she is trying to surround herself with healthy people. That's key. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 490317, member: 35"] What a really nice and insightful post, Nancy. It's great that you have reason to be cautiously optimistic about difficult child's future. My fingers remain crossed. This may be a little off topic but in watching a program recently I had an "ah ha" moment. The recovering addict explained why he had to stay isolated with others in recovery (ten years I think). What he said that I had never thought of before was this. "Addicts recognize one another no matter what the social setting or work setting may be. If I am in a crowd of people who are unknown to me I can easily identify and be identified as an addict. It's just a look of recognition that passes when eyes meet. We "know" each other even though we are complete strangers. I guarantee you that even the exchange of looks for a moment triggers memories and sometimes passing need to use. That is why I eliminated all socialization which includes people that I am not completely sure are living a happy healthy life." I had never thought about that before but in retrospect I realize that difficult child "sees" things that I don't see. He hones in on people who are users, sellers etc. in an uncanny way. The old expression "It takes one to know one" evidently makes the outside world an unhealthy place for someone who is attempting to get clean and stay clean. Like I said...it was an "ah ha" moment. So glad she is trying to surround herself with healthy people. That's key. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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