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serious problem with 19 y/o difficult child what to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 573139" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I know how scary it is to think of a kid that small being in jail. My son is disabled physically and mentally and I was convinced he would get beaten to a pulp because he would run his mouth. Not. Somehow they figure it out fast. Also it isnt quite as bad in there as they make it out to be. And then if you just decide to toss him out without charging him I can guarantee he will find a way to couch surf until he runs out of friends and hopefully by then it will occur to him he has to make it on his own. Just be prepared for all his phone calls home begging to come back. He will have found everything from God to Buddha. He will promise the moon and he will never follow up on it. I cant even begin to tell you how many times I fell for my son promising to go get his GED, go to church, go back to therapy, and on and on. He still doesnt have his GED. I even tried to bribe him with a 40 inch big screen tv to go get his GED. No dice. </p><p></p><p>The one thing that throwing him out has done is that he isnt happy coming home. I have one very unhappy young man sleeping in my spare bedroom right now. I keep telling him he is more than welcome to stay as long as he needs to at this time but he is very unhappy to have had to come back here. He feels like a failure to have had to return home. I dont think of it that way, I think of it as my job to be here for my kids when times get rough for them. If any of my kids need me, Im here for them. Its why I have a big house.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 573139, member: 1514"] I know how scary it is to think of a kid that small being in jail. My son is disabled physically and mentally and I was convinced he would get beaten to a pulp because he would run his mouth. Not. Somehow they figure it out fast. Also it isnt quite as bad in there as they make it out to be. And then if you just decide to toss him out without charging him I can guarantee he will find a way to couch surf until he runs out of friends and hopefully by then it will occur to him he has to make it on his own. Just be prepared for all his phone calls home begging to come back. He will have found everything from God to Buddha. He will promise the moon and he will never follow up on it. I cant even begin to tell you how many times I fell for my son promising to go get his GED, go to church, go back to therapy, and on and on. He still doesnt have his GED. I even tried to bribe him with a 40 inch big screen tv to go get his GED. No dice. The one thing that throwing him out has done is that he isnt happy coming home. I have one very unhappy young man sleeping in my spare bedroom right now. I keep telling him he is more than welcome to stay as long as he needs to at this time but he is very unhappy to have had to come back here. He feels like a failure to have had to return home. I dont think of it that way, I think of it as my job to be here for my kids when times get rough for them. If any of my kids need me, Im here for them. Its why I have a big house. [/QUOTE]
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