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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 113528" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>husband and I were just talking about this this morning, he asked why could I make it and he looked at K and thought there is NO WAY she was ever going to make it?</p><p></p><p>I thought about it... I said, Well I had been through a lot more by her age, sexual and physical abuse... loss. </p><p>No parents around to guide me. Already Adopted. </p><p>I thought maybe I was forced to? Maybe when push comes to shove, you just do? </p><p>Maybe she would? He said, No way... </p><p>I said I don't No... </p><p>But I was, so scared, when I was allowed, I would cling to my Mom when I was allowed... I would rage and feel so depressed when I was allowed... I had so many fears and nightmares.... I would rip my hair out, and just cry.</p><p></p><p>I said maybe if she wasn't medicated... she would. She would not be cognitively dulled... and she would???</p><p></p><p>Maybe she is more severe than me???</p><p></p><p>I don't know, maybe we do enable our kids, to avoid what we went through. There is a big difference</p><p> between some of the Mental Illness traits and the Autistic traits... some of the lower functioning traits of Autism can never be helped and they can become able to function on there own. </p><p>But some of the lower functioning traits that Mental Illness can be worked on and they can work through it... CBT can help as well as medications.</p><p>I for one know that staying in the house just gets easier and more comfortable.</p><p>It isn't mean to try and help him get out and on his own. Maybe not kick him out just yet... But get him ready and prepared...</p><p>I have days were I don't want to leave the house. But I need to... I need to get out and breath and live.</p><p>Your son does also. </p><p>We have to do this with K also... She doesn't want to leave the house today... I can't let her draw into herself... it becomes to comforting. </p><p>She wont even talk on the phone some days. Wouldn't talk to her Papa today, it is his Birthday...</p><p>I hope you guys figure something out that doesn't have to extreme...</p><p>Maybe Baby steps are needed for both of you to start this proccess.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 113528, member: 3155"] husband and I were just talking about this this morning, he asked why could I make it and he looked at K and thought there is NO WAY she was ever going to make it? I thought about it... I said, Well I had been through a lot more by her age, sexual and physical abuse... loss. No parents around to guide me. Already Adopted. I thought maybe I was forced to? Maybe when push comes to shove, you just do? Maybe she would? He said, No way... I said I don't No... But I was, so scared, when I was allowed, I would cling to my Mom when I was allowed... I would rage and feel so depressed when I was allowed... I had so many fears and nightmares.... I would rip my hair out, and just cry. I said maybe if she wasn't medicated... she would. She would not be cognitively dulled... and she would??? Maybe she is more severe than me??? I don't know, maybe we do enable our kids, to avoid what we went through. There is a big difference between some of the Mental Illness traits and the Autistic traits... some of the lower functioning traits of Autism can never be helped and they can become able to function on there own. But some of the lower functioning traits that Mental Illness can be worked on and they can work through it... CBT can help as well as medications. I for one know that staying in the house just gets easier and more comfortable. It isn't mean to try and help him get out and on his own. Maybe not kick him out just yet... But get him ready and prepared... I have days were I don't want to leave the house. But I need to... I need to get out and breath and live. Your son does also. We have to do this with K also... She doesn't want to leave the house today... I can't let her draw into herself... it becomes to comforting. She wont even talk on the phone some days. Wouldn't talk to her Papa today, it is his Birthday... I hope you guys figure something out that doesn't have to extreme... Maybe Baby steps are needed for both of you to start this proccess. [/QUOTE]
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