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difficult child and I are moving. Right now we live in a home owned by my father and brother, and they seem to think they have the right to come into it and stick their noses in. That's one of the biggest reasons we're moving to another town, 20 minutes or so away. That, and I can combine my work and home in one place - saving on rent, time, and travel expense going back and forth.
Due to the nature of my business, I need help to get it set up in the new place - my brother and dad will be helping out. BUT they don't own the place, their names aren't on the lease, and I'll be paying them for their time and work. So WHY in the world would my father think that it's ok to tell MY son what he can and can't do with the new place? The building owner has some things there that we'll have to store for him for a while, while he figures out what he wants to do with it. My son and I were talking about where we can put his things that will have the lowest impact on our lives and home. No big deal. difficult child commented that he thinks we should get a little off rent while the owners things are there. I agree and it's being worked out. My father, who wasn't even a part of the conversation, started telling difficult child that it's not up to him and he doesn't need to involve himself.
That, of course, set difficult child off. My father engaged him in the argument and ended up being told "get out of my face or I'll remove you" by difficult child. Yeah dad, that went over very well!
I do not understand why it's so hard for them (all of my extended family) to understand that engaging in arguments or telling Jacob what he can or can't do is not how you get along with him! I don't let him walk on me, and he does have limits, but I choose my battles AND I respect his opinions and wants - even if I don't agree with them. I really, honestly, don't understand why that's so hard for the rest of the family!
Due to the nature of my business, I need help to get it set up in the new place - my brother and dad will be helping out. BUT they don't own the place, their names aren't on the lease, and I'll be paying them for their time and work. So WHY in the world would my father think that it's ok to tell MY son what he can and can't do with the new place? The building owner has some things there that we'll have to store for him for a while, while he figures out what he wants to do with it. My son and I were talking about where we can put his things that will have the lowest impact on our lives and home. No big deal. difficult child commented that he thinks we should get a little off rent while the owners things are there. I agree and it's being worked out. My father, who wasn't even a part of the conversation, started telling difficult child that it's not up to him and he doesn't need to involve himself.
That, of course, set difficult child off. My father engaged him in the argument and ended up being told "get out of my face or I'll remove you" by difficult child. Yeah dad, that went over very well!
I do not understand why it's so hard for them (all of my extended family) to understand that engaging in arguments or telling Jacob what he can or can't do is not how you get along with him! I don't let him walk on me, and he does have limits, but I choose my battles AND I respect his opinions and wants - even if I don't agree with them. I really, honestly, don't understand why that's so hard for the rest of the family!