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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 417146" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Wow.......... 3 days with no sleep and I'm just a tad witchy with a major capitol B, huh? (I just re-read my vent after waking from a 5 hr much needed nap)</p><p></p><p>It does rub me wrong due to the simple fact that it sort of reinforces to katie that if she holds out and does nothing long enough people will come through for her eventually.</p><p></p><p>I do have to say we have some pretty fantastic people in this town, which is why I love living her so much. There are plenty of bad apples.......but the down to earth good-hearted out number them 100 fold. We had a family back in the winter lose their home and all their belongings to fire......town rallied and they had a place to live, clothing, and fully furnished home within a few weeks. </p><p></p><p>I am glad the grandkids will be more comfortable and will get an opportunity at a "normal" home environment. And with sleep, I don't doubt that most of this is being done for the sake of the children, not their parents. So........I will let it go. I'm not bending over backward to enable her, the family isn't either, so that is what counts. The good people here........if katie abuses their generosity......<strong>will</strong> stop helping her. Word gets around<strong> fast</strong>.</p><p></p><p>I didn't talk to katie today. I instead, came home and blew up on husband after the poor man filled me in on the news that caused me to vent, contacted Nichole so she wouldn't make an unnecessary trip in the morning, and hit the bed. Exhausted as I was, it still took me more than 2 hrs to finally fall asleep. Once I reach that "over tired" stage it's next to impossible for me to actually fall asleep. ugh So tonight shouldn't be so bad now that I've had a long nap.</p><p></p><p>Katie paid the rent and deposit today and signed the lease so there is no hitch about when she moves in to the apartment. Manager made it clear it's not going to be super fun times there. If so much as one article of men's clothing is found in her apartment due to M not being allowed to live there Katie will find herself evicted promptly. If neighbors report he is spending all hours of the day and night there......she'll find herself evicted as before. I'm not sure about visiting.....Katie volunteered the other info and husband wasn't inclined to ask questions much. Does make me wonder about him even being allowed on the property though...........I certainly won't be too shy to ask that question when I talk to her. lol And manager informed her that there are monthly random inspections for cleanliness and damage to the apartments......and she can be evicted if she doesn't pass inspection. Random means unannounced as they inspect every single apartment. I know because I asked Nichole's bff that lives there. </p><p></p><p>And I'm guessing Welfare has already made demands (katie would've had to inform them her address is changing) as suddenly M has managed to land a job as a dishwasher at a local mexican restaurant. Shocking how suddenly that happened isn't it? So now he'll be paying child support.......so katie will be able to make rent (CS income doesn't count as income for hud by the way) and buy things that food stamps doesn't cover. </p><p></p><p>All in all........this is not working out so well for M. He can't live with Katie and the kids, he can't even so much as sleep over night there, may not even be able to visit there. Now he has no choice but to keep a job and pay child support or he will get room and board in jail. Shelter, although they're letting him move over to the men's side, won't let him stay there very long especially now that he has a job......they'll expect him to find a place to live. So by the time he pays his rent/bills and the child support........there will be no money left for him to have fun with. That is NOT going to sit well with him, cuz it's all about Him and what he wants. And Katie is beginning to act like she's had enough of him.</p><p></p><p>Nope, not looking so grand for him at all. </p><p></p><p>As for the sitter..........M is katie's sitter. But if he's not allowed at the apartments then she won't have one. Daycare wants a set schedule and katie's is only when they call her, so doubtful daycare will take the kids even though state would foot the bill. Doesn't matter too much as M will be paying support......but the manager of the apartment will be expecting her to look for work and katie will have to show that she is actively looking. If she wants work she has walmart, krogers, dollar general, the dollar store, a movie theatre, bob evans, dakota's, Lowe's, pizza hut, a gas station all with in 15 mins of walking distance to apply at and more. No excuse not to find work.</p><p></p><p>Me? I'm just going to do the Nana bit. Next weekend Nichole will come down and we'll load up all their stuff from here and take it to her. And I'll take her to get groceries. I am going to tell her that she needs to tell M that either he takes his stuff at the shelter or I dump it into the trash. I'm done storing it for him and am not going to continue to do so indefinitely. And I plan to give him no excuse to "drop in" for a visit. The fact I haven't had to see him since xmas is<strong> bliss</strong>, I'm soooooooo hoping he does a no show for Easter dinner.</p><p></p><p>Still it is simply amazing how our difficult child's manage to get things so darn easy when the rest of us have to work our fingers to the bone.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 417146, member: 84"] Wow.......... 3 days with no sleep and I'm just a tad witchy with a major capitol B, huh? (I just re-read my vent after waking from a 5 hr much needed nap) It does rub me wrong due to the simple fact that it sort of reinforces to katie that if she holds out and does nothing long enough people will come through for her eventually. I do have to say we have some pretty fantastic people in this town, which is why I love living her so much. There are plenty of bad apples.......but the down to earth good-hearted out number them 100 fold. We had a family back in the winter lose their home and all their belongings to fire......town rallied and they had a place to live, clothing, and fully furnished home within a few weeks. I am glad the grandkids will be more comfortable and will get an opportunity at a "normal" home environment. And with sleep, I don't doubt that most of this is being done for the sake of the children, not their parents. So........I will let it go. I'm not bending over backward to enable her, the family isn't either, so that is what counts. The good people here........if katie abuses their generosity......[B]will[/B] stop helping her. Word gets around[B] fast[/B]. I didn't talk to katie today. I instead, came home and blew up on husband after the poor man filled me in on the news that caused me to vent, contacted Nichole so she wouldn't make an unnecessary trip in the morning, and hit the bed. Exhausted as I was, it still took me more than 2 hrs to finally fall asleep. Once I reach that "over tired" stage it's next to impossible for me to actually fall asleep. ugh So tonight shouldn't be so bad now that I've had a long nap. Katie paid the rent and deposit today and signed the lease so there is no hitch about when she moves in to the apartment. Manager made it clear it's not going to be super fun times there. If so much as one article of men's clothing is found in her apartment due to M not being allowed to live there Katie will find herself evicted promptly. If neighbors report he is spending all hours of the day and night there......she'll find herself evicted as before. I'm not sure about visiting.....Katie volunteered the other info and husband wasn't inclined to ask questions much. Does make me wonder about him even being allowed on the property though...........I certainly won't be too shy to ask that question when I talk to her. lol And manager informed her that there are monthly random inspections for cleanliness and damage to the apartments......and she can be evicted if she doesn't pass inspection. Random means unannounced as they inspect every single apartment. I know because I asked Nichole's bff that lives there. And I'm guessing Welfare has already made demands (katie would've had to inform them her address is changing) as suddenly M has managed to land a job as a dishwasher at a local mexican restaurant. Shocking how suddenly that happened isn't it? So now he'll be paying child support.......so katie will be able to make rent (CS income doesn't count as income for hud by the way) and buy things that food stamps doesn't cover. All in all........this is not working out so well for M. He can't live with Katie and the kids, he can't even so much as sleep over night there, may not even be able to visit there. Now he has no choice but to keep a job and pay child support or he will get room and board in jail. Shelter, although they're letting him move over to the men's side, won't let him stay there very long especially now that he has a job......they'll expect him to find a place to live. So by the time he pays his rent/bills and the child support........there will be no money left for him to have fun with. That is NOT going to sit well with him, cuz it's all about Him and what he wants. And Katie is beginning to act like she's had enough of him. Nope, not looking so grand for him at all. As for the sitter..........M is katie's sitter. But if he's not allowed at the apartments then she won't have one. Daycare wants a set schedule and katie's is only when they call her, so doubtful daycare will take the kids even though state would foot the bill. Doesn't matter too much as M will be paying support......but the manager of the apartment will be expecting her to look for work and katie will have to show that she is actively looking. If she wants work she has walmart, krogers, dollar general, the dollar store, a movie theatre, bob evans, dakota's, Lowe's, pizza hut, a gas station all with in 15 mins of walking distance to apply at and more. No excuse not to find work. Me? I'm just going to do the Nana bit. Next weekend Nichole will come down and we'll load up all their stuff from here and take it to her. And I'll take her to get groceries. I am going to tell her that she needs to tell M that either he takes his stuff at the shelter or I dump it into the trash. I'm done storing it for him and am not going to continue to do so indefinitely. And I plan to give him no excuse to "drop in" for a visit. The fact I haven't had to see him since xmas is[B] bliss[/B], I'm soooooooo hoping he does a no show for Easter dinner. Still it is simply amazing how our difficult child's manage to get things so darn easy when the rest of us have to work our fingers to the bone.:sigh: [/QUOTE]
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