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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 682031" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Savior, you have been through so much. Thank you for taking the time to share your experience. It is a bizarre world we are navigating....we need special survival skills, for sure. How to continue to <em>lovingly</em></p><p>detach, protect our hearts but not become cold hearted. This is my struggle now, finding the space between enabling and detaching. I can be an extremist at times. Black and white. It is much easier when my two are distant. These six months have been hard, but also a sort of respite. Not having to deal daily with the physical presence and the drama up close and personal, then the awfullizing, the stages of grief, all of the processing. Add in sudden appearances, the shock, dismay, memories, the work at changing patterns of response, rinse, repeat. I fear I am sailing through uncharted waters and not doing such a good job of it. I want to reach out, but.......how do I protect myself at the same time? </p><p></p><p> Thank you, I will be praying hard on this one. How do I reach out to my daughter beyond my prayers and trying to project in my mind her finding her purpose and meaning. What ways can I approach her and show her I love her, but not sink into enabling? This will be my new quest. Lest my heart grow cold........</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 682031, member: 19522"] Savior, you have been through so much. Thank you for taking the time to share your experience. It is a bizarre world we are navigating....we need special survival skills, for sure. How to continue to [I]lovingly[/I] detach, protect our hearts but not become cold hearted. This is my struggle now, finding the space between enabling and detaching. I can be an extremist at times. Black and white. It is much easier when my two are distant. These six months have been hard, but also a sort of respite. Not having to deal daily with the physical presence and the drama up close and personal, then the awfullizing, the stages of grief, all of the processing. Add in sudden appearances, the shock, dismay, memories, the work at changing patterns of response, rinse, repeat. I fear I am sailing through uncharted waters and not doing such a good job of it. I want to reach out, but.......how do I protect myself at the same time? Thank you, I will be praying hard on this one. How do I reach out to my daughter beyond my prayers and trying to project in my mind her finding her purpose and meaning. What ways can I approach her and show her I love her, but not sink into enabling? This will be my new quest. Lest my heart grow cold........ (((Hugs))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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