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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 682035" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Maybe it is both. The want and need plus the loneliness and desperation. It is hard, because it all does come with a history of manipulation. Do I trust myself enough to not fall into the rabbit hole? </p><p>For me, DM, it has been so many years of yo-yoing, drama go round and stress. Rerunning the tapes so that I recognize my part with enabling, and am cognizant of it, so I do not backslide. But then, I fear I have swung to far to the other side.....</p><p>I think this is the hardest part, finding the balance between the two. My daughter has made a choice to remain on the streets. For now. How do I deal with that, and keep my heart open, lovingly detaching, but be able to live with the emotion contact brings, the despair at the sight of my daughter and her condition? Where is the in between? It is heart wrenching seeing my daughter in her state as it is. Somehow, I want to reach out to her, but am caught between wondering about my safety, and that a small gesture will be looked at as a band aid on a large open wound? I will keep praying on this and sit with my feelings.Try to come up with an answer......</p><p>Thank you DM. I will work through this, it is most helpful to read the responses here and try to figure out next baby steps......</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 682035, member: 19522"] Maybe it is both. The want and need plus the loneliness and desperation. It is hard, because it all does come with a history of manipulation. Do I trust myself enough to not fall into the rabbit hole? For me, DM, it has been so many years of yo-yoing, drama go round and stress. Rerunning the tapes so that I recognize my part with enabling, and am cognizant of it, so I do not backslide. But then, I fear I have swung to far to the other side..... I think this is the hardest part, finding the balance between the two. My daughter has made a choice to remain on the streets. For now. How do I deal with that, and keep my heart open, lovingly detaching, but be able to live with the emotion contact brings, the despair at the sight of my daughter and her condition? Where is the in between? It is heart wrenching seeing my daughter in her state as it is. Somehow, I want to reach out to her, but am caught between wondering about my safety, and that a small gesture will be looked at as a band aid on a large open wound? I will keep praying on this and sit with my feelings.Try to come up with an answer...... Thank you DM. I will work through this, it is most helpful to read the responses here and try to figure out next baby steps...... (((Hugs))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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