Hi, I have a non-existant relationship with my mother. She was very, very abusive to me as a child. And anytime I have spoken with her as an adult, its just more of the same. I haven't spoken a word to her in years. She had my father cease all contact with his parents and sisters.( I was 15 at the time, and old enought to had their phone numbers memorized, so secretly I did still talk to them. My sister and brother never, and still don't talk to them. They were younger than I was.) My dad made up with his sisters after 20 years. Anyway, yesterday my mother called husband at work crying -he can't talk to her, he's a busy carpenter-he's not at a desk or anything. And she was saying things to him like she was sorry, and she was young when she had me...I told husband that I didn't want to hear anymore of this. But husband knows how I feel and didn't engage her, he told her to call me. He didn't know what to say. Last night I heard it was her on the caller ID, I didn't answer. But she left a message, I don't plan on listening to it but I also don't know how to erase it unless its listenend to. Does anyone have Comcast phone service? and know? I don't want to even hear her voice. by the way my brother has dissapeared off the face of the earth for all we know. He grew up with her also, when he was younger he joined the Marines, and didn't tell them where he was. His friends spilled the beans when my parents said they were going to the police. He told them not to speak to him and now they have no clue as to where he is. He's 39. So 2 out of 3 have no contact with her. I have seen my brother once since he was 18. I guess this is what they taught us, and you know...the sins of the fathers...and all that. I'm not mad at her -it is what it is. Should I avoid, or confront? Everyone here has such good advice....I'm thinking ignore. -Alyssa
