I have absolutely no contact with my bio-mother. The one time she finally decided that she wanted to "get to know me before it was too late", I took the bait. I was in her filthy, disgusting apartment for 45 minutes while she talked about herself and all of her boyfriends. Finally, she asked me what I did for a living. After engaging her for about an hour and a half, I left. I never looked back. I didn't experience the abuse (it her hands, anyway, but someone else's instead) that you did, but I understand what you are going through. Personally, if your feelings are to run, then stay away. If you feel the urge to tell her your thoughts, write them down, rather than confront her. Send it to her if you wish, or not.
