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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 521443"><p>You know Kathy - if it were cancer and the drugs and alcohol were prohibiting the cancer treatment from working, you would have no choice but to treat the drugs and alcohol first. </p><p></p><p>I know the cancer analogy is flawed and you wrote so yourself. I prefer to think of my easy child as being trapped by the difficult child and there are multiple boulders holding him hostage. I think my son's biggest boulder (or first boulder) was the assault & the head injury. I don't know if his underlying problem is neurological, or trauma based or if he fell into a bad crowd because of the assault. But I do know that he has layered lots of boulders - failure, disrespect, pot and alcohol on top of the big boulder...and we can't get to the big boulder (his assault, your difficult children mental illness) until we remove the boulders laying atop it. (pot and alcohol) In order for my difficult child to be treated for what I think is his main issue - he has to stop self treating (medicating) himself. And until he realizes himself that NONE OF THIS IS WORKING for him, it's futile. I almost wrote pointless - but it's not POINTLESS, it's just futile. Pedantic maybe, but maybe not. I don't know, it's such a dichotomy...</p><p></p><p>Follow your head with your heart. Put on your warrior mom armor. And please, please please talk it over in depth with your husband. Even easy child daughter too. two or 3 heads are better than 1</p><p></p><p>just food for thought...</p><p></p><p>and I am in your corner...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 521443"] You know Kathy - if it were cancer and the drugs and alcohol were prohibiting the cancer treatment from working, you would have no choice but to treat the drugs and alcohol first. I know the cancer analogy is flawed and you wrote so yourself. I prefer to think of my easy child as being trapped by the difficult child and there are multiple boulders holding him hostage. I think my son's biggest boulder (or first boulder) was the assault & the head injury. I don't know if his underlying problem is neurological, or trauma based or if he fell into a bad crowd because of the assault. But I do know that he has layered lots of boulders - failure, disrespect, pot and alcohol on top of the big boulder...and we can't get to the big boulder (his assault, your difficult children mental illness) until we remove the boulders laying atop it. (pot and alcohol) In order for my difficult child to be treated for what I think is his main issue - he has to stop self treating (medicating) himself. And until he realizes himself that NONE OF THIS IS WORKING for him, it's futile. I almost wrote pointless - but it's not POINTLESS, it's just futile. Pedantic maybe, but maybe not. I don't know, it's such a dichotomy... Follow your head with your heart. Put on your warrior mom armor. And please, please please talk it over in depth with your husband. Even easy child daughter too. two or 3 heads are better than 1 just food for thought... and I am in your corner... [/QUOTE]
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