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She had an awesome day, and then blew it at 1:50pm
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 508208" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Oh wow, even once you figure out what does work for her....I suspect you will have still what I call "bad mommy moments" not that I am a bad mommy but I have some bad moments for sure! (and lots of daydreams about really bad mommy moments, LOL) One time Q hit me so hard I felt like I could lunge at him and hurt him back... it was so automatic it scared me and I felt like something in me had snapped or broken and maybe I couldn't be his mom anymore. I didn't and really had to work to even feel loving toward him for a couple of days. Partly I was thinking I had to separate my heart from him a little in case I had to send him to a residential living facility instead of caring for him at home.... Partly because I felt really hurt and sad. Knowing of his issues didn't make me emotionally feel less upset that time. I didn't even know I could feel aggressive like that and it gave me some insight to what he must feel over and over all day... it is such an automatic urge and it feels almost driven... by chemicals or whatever causes that when you go into fight/flight. </p><p></p><p>What helped me is talking because when I heard myself say the right thing to do it slowed me down, allowed me to let go and to have it in my more conscious mind when he had struggles like that. Can only talk to someone who really understands though. I am lucky to have that and get validation that this was totally normal. Sure didn't feel that way at the time or any of the times since when I just feel so angry with him.....</p><p></p><p>Keep digging, for us, every little piece of the puzzle addressed really does help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 508208, member: 12886"] Oh wow, even once you figure out what does work for her....I suspect you will have still what I call "bad mommy moments" not that I am a bad mommy but I have some bad moments for sure! (and lots of daydreams about really bad mommy moments, LOL) One time Q hit me so hard I felt like I could lunge at him and hurt him back... it was so automatic it scared me and I felt like something in me had snapped or broken and maybe I couldn't be his mom anymore. I didn't and really had to work to even feel loving toward him for a couple of days. Partly I was thinking I had to separate my heart from him a little in case I had to send him to a residential living facility instead of caring for him at home.... Partly because I felt really hurt and sad. Knowing of his issues didn't make me emotionally feel less upset that time. I didn't even know I could feel aggressive like that and it gave me some insight to what he must feel over and over all day... it is such an automatic urge and it feels almost driven... by chemicals or whatever causes that when you go into fight/flight. What helped me is talking because when I heard myself say the right thing to do it slowed me down, allowed me to let go and to have it in my more conscious mind when he had struggles like that. Can only talk to someone who really understands though. I am lucky to have that and get validation that this was totally normal. Sure didn't feel that way at the time or any of the times since when I just feel so angry with him..... Keep digging, for us, every little piece of the puzzle addressed really does help. [/QUOTE]
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