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She is NEVER gonna change!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 238452" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Shawna,</p><p></p><p>I truly do believe our difficult child's are related.</p><p></p><p>Continue to detach. I know you look for any opportunity, and crack in her armour, to give in and think she will be different. You want that so desperately, I know I do too. But keep reminding yourself that if she really wants to change she has to do it herself and you will not enable her to continue to live the life she has been living.</p><p></p><p>Look what happens to an alcoholic when all their support is withdrawn, when the family finally stops enabling them. They panic, they try their old ways of bullying and controlling everyone's behavior. They up the ante. When we don't buy it any longer, then and only then can they begin to change. Tell her that you will support her 100&#37; in her getting her life back in order but you will not stand by and help her continue to ruin it, and that you and the rest of the family are going to go on with your lives.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 238452, member: 59"] Shawna, I truly do believe our difficult child's are related. Continue to detach. I know you look for any opportunity, and crack in her armour, to give in and think she will be different. You want that so desperately, I know I do too. But keep reminding yourself that if she really wants to change she has to do it herself and you will not enable her to continue to live the life she has been living. Look what happens to an alcoholic when all their support is withdrawn, when the family finally stops enabling them. They panic, they try their old ways of bullying and controlling everyone's behavior. They up the ante. When we don't buy it any longer, then and only then can they begin to change. Tell her that you will support her 100% in her getting her life back in order but you will not stand by and help her continue to ruin it, and that you and the rest of the family are going to go on with your lives. Hugs, Nancy [/QUOTE]
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