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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 333182" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Julie, </p><p></p><p>This isn't the first time you've not enabled her dear. I don't know if it really ever gets easier - I think maybe we kid our parental selves about that. I think it just gets more familiar and we realize that our kids grow up a bit more each time we find the courage to say NO. Somewhere in that? I think there is a calming peace for our souls. </p><p></p><p>The tooth? There will be other times for her to have that replaced. The hole is going to be there irregardless of whether you had taken her today or tomorrow. She really does have bigger problems at hand. It can be our hope that she is beginning to understand THAT. </p><p></p><p>Right now I can not imagine how disconnected she must feel from herself. All by her own doing and now no one to blame. It's like all their lives they seem to be able to direct their anger at someone or something, blame someone for THEIR mistakes and as long as they have that safety net? They can cope. When they're out of school, out of their parents home, out of friends, out of work, and basically out of everything? They have to start looking in the mirror and that's a long, hard look. There is no one to blame but themselves - everyone else has left them, and rightfully so. They've done this to themselves, and at this point? She can either continue fighting herself and ride the pity wagon or she can realize what she's doing helps no one - including herself AND that she does have a son that is missing her and she's missing some of the best years of HIS life...pull herself together and figure it out, forgive herself and move on....or continue like she is bouncing from place to place hoping to find people to feel sorry for her while she tells her sad little story over and over as she ages. </p><p></p><p>My son is now 19. I figured he would be full of such hate for his biofather because he chose the latter path. He just kept asking people to feel sorry for him. 55 years...."Pity me, woe is me." My son doesn't hate him, but sadly he has one word that describes him perfectly. Pathetic. I think being told you are pathetic by your child is worse than hearing "I hate you." If he were to ever hear what his son thought I'm sure it would cut worse than 45 years of abuse. It's my sincerest hope that our Sweet Betsy takes your brothers advice and your offer so she never has to hear her son say that she is "pathetic". </p><p></p><p>You're in my prayers always, as is Betsy & easy child. </p><p>As for the toad? I hope a rock.....well lets just say I hope he stays there. </p><p></p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p><p></p><p>ps Congrats on your new job. I know you will do wonderfully.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 333182, member: 4964"] Julie, This isn't the first time you've not enabled her dear. I don't know if it really ever gets easier - I think maybe we kid our parental selves about that. I think it just gets more familiar and we realize that our kids grow up a bit more each time we find the courage to say NO. Somewhere in that? I think there is a calming peace for our souls. The tooth? There will be other times for her to have that replaced. The hole is going to be there irregardless of whether you had taken her today or tomorrow. She really does have bigger problems at hand. It can be our hope that she is beginning to understand THAT. Right now I can not imagine how disconnected she must feel from herself. All by her own doing and now no one to blame. It's like all their lives they seem to be able to direct their anger at someone or something, blame someone for THEIR mistakes and as long as they have that safety net? They can cope. When they're out of school, out of their parents home, out of friends, out of work, and basically out of everything? They have to start looking in the mirror and that's a long, hard look. There is no one to blame but themselves - everyone else has left them, and rightfully so. They've done this to themselves, and at this point? She can either continue fighting herself and ride the pity wagon or she can realize what she's doing helps no one - including herself AND that she does have a son that is missing her and she's missing some of the best years of HIS life...pull herself together and figure it out, forgive herself and move on....or continue like she is bouncing from place to place hoping to find people to feel sorry for her while she tells her sad little story over and over as she ages. My son is now 19. I figured he would be full of such hate for his biofather because he chose the latter path. He just kept asking people to feel sorry for him. 55 years...."Pity me, woe is me." My son doesn't hate him, but sadly he has one word that describes him perfectly. Pathetic. I think being told you are pathetic by your child is worse than hearing "I hate you." If he were to ever hear what his son thought I'm sure it would cut worse than 45 years of abuse. It's my sincerest hope that our Sweet Betsy takes your brothers advice and your offer so she never has to hear her son say that she is "pathetic". You're in my prayers always, as is Betsy & easy child. As for the toad? I hope a rock.....well lets just say I hope he stays there. Hugs & Love Star ps Congrats on your new job. I know you will do wonderfully. [/QUOTE]
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