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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 704280" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I love Crayola's point of view. The first point she makes that I cannot disagree with is the need to come clean with the Mom. (I wanted to protect the Mom, but the Mom too has been a participant in this entire scam, and needs to face her piece of it.) I agree with this, too.</p><p></p><p>You have a right to be protected and an obligation to protect yourself and any children you may have, with whom you eventually choose.</p><p></p><p>That said, people decide to change. Yes. We cannot force a person to change, but people decide to change, and often this Is motivated by crises such as this, and how THEY CHOOSE TO</p><p>respond.</p><p> Yes, As a married person her debts are your debts. And there is every reason to expect that she would siphon off community property money (her own or your earnings) to a personal account, as her mother did. How could she have another expectation of how to be, if this was how she was raised? And she participated with her mother to do it?</p><p>Yes. This is a real eye opener. A lot of older people (I am older) choose not to marry because they cannot put themselves at risk when they are at the age when they do not have the capacity to work or to save, to replace the losses.</p><p></p><p>It really all goes back to you. What you want for yourself; what your values are; what kind of relationship you seek.</p><p></p><p>Somebody on this thread mentioned earlier: this is a blessing in disguise. Better that you know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 704280, member: 18958"] I love Crayola's point of view. The first point she makes that I cannot disagree with is the need to come clean with the Mom. (I wanted to protect the Mom, but the Mom too has been a participant in this entire scam, and needs to face her piece of it.) I agree with this, too. You have a right to be protected and an obligation to protect yourself and any children you may have, with whom you eventually choose. That said, people decide to change. Yes. We cannot force a person to change, but people decide to change, and often this Is motivated by crises such as this, and how THEY CHOOSE TO respond. Yes, As a married person her debts are your debts. And there is every reason to expect that she would siphon off community property money (her own or your earnings) to a personal account, as her mother did. How could she have another expectation of how to be, if this was how she was raised? And she participated with her mother to do it? Yes. This is a real eye opener. A lot of older people (I am older) choose not to marry because they cannot put themselves at risk when they are at the age when they do not have the capacity to work or to save, to replace the losses. It really all goes back to you. What you want for yourself; what your values are; what kind of relationship you seek. Somebody on this thread mentioned earlier: this is a blessing in disguise. Better that you know. [/QUOTE]
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