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She will never be normal, will she?
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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 327101" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>I remember feeling intense feelings of hatred towards my difficult child 1 and wishing she'd never been born. I remember expressing those feelings to my husband (her stepdad) and he just listened. I did not feel it was a case of "loving her but not liking her." I felt I neither loved or liked her.</p><p></p><p>I think you are going to have to get your difficult child out of the house. I made mine leave when she was 18 and not doing one thing to move forward. She wouldn't get a job, wouldn't go to school, wouldn't do anything to help in the house, etc. She had a do nothing boyfriend and they went to a homeless shelter in our town.</p><p></p><p>She did improve once she was out of my house and had no other choice. She is 21 now and lives 3000 miles away from me on the other side of the country. We have a much improved relationship and I no longer have those feelings of hate towards her. I love her very much and even like her--but I have to keep my boundaries intact. I don't think she could ever live in my house again.</p><p></p><p>Mainly I just wanted you to know I understand your feelings and I don't think you are a bad mom. I think you need a break, perhaps a permanent one.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 327101, member: 3450"] I remember feeling intense feelings of hatred towards my difficult child 1 and wishing she'd never been born. I remember expressing those feelings to my husband (her stepdad) and he just listened. I did not feel it was a case of "loving her but not liking her." I felt I neither loved or liked her. I think you are going to have to get your difficult child out of the house. I made mine leave when she was 18 and not doing one thing to move forward. She wouldn't get a job, wouldn't go to school, wouldn't do anything to help in the house, etc. She had a do nothing boyfriend and they went to a homeless shelter in our town. She did improve once she was out of my house and had no other choice. She is 21 now and lives 3000 miles away from me on the other side of the country. We have a much improved relationship and I no longer have those feelings of hate towards her. I love her very much and even like her--but I have to keep my boundaries intact. I don't think she could ever live in my house again. Mainly I just wanted you to know I understand your feelings and I don't think you are a bad mom. I think you need a break, perhaps a permanent one. Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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