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She will never be normal, will she?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 327109" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>{{{{Hugs}}}} for your pain. </p><p></p><p>Janet has a good point on Apathy being the opposite of Love, not hate. The depths of care for you child is what makes the pain so great. Maybe there is even some mourning of what could of been. </p><p></p><p>I don't think there is a person on this board that hasn't felt like the worst parent at least a few times. I see my family counselor regularly just so that she can remind me that I am a good parent and did everything I could for my kids. </p><p></p><p>Our kids are not easy. We pour our hearts and souls into them, into helping them, being there for them... and soemtimes if feels like we are wasting our efforts. But hang in there. Come here often and share...there is great help here. Work on detachment. That is so important. Since I've been able to detach from difficult child 1, I'm able to see his charm again. And, I'm able to disinguish between not liking his actions and loving him still. And I'm able to allow him to have the natural consequences for his actions. Like the fact that he is to have 24 hours of community service done by the end of December and he hasn't done one hour. So, when he ends up in jail from it....I'll bring him clean sock, underwear and maybe a pack of cigarettes. I'll visit, but I won't bail him out. And the best part... it doesn't upset me anymore. </p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you and the pain that you are in. Wish there was more I could do to help....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 327109, member: 65"] {{{{Hugs}}}} for your pain. Janet has a good point on Apathy being the opposite of Love, not hate. The depths of care for you child is what makes the pain so great. Maybe there is even some mourning of what could of been. I don't think there is a person on this board that hasn't felt like the worst parent at least a few times. I see my family counselor regularly just so that she can remind me that I am a good parent and did everything I could for my kids. Our kids are not easy. We pour our hearts and souls into them, into helping them, being there for them... and soemtimes if feels like we are wasting our efforts. But hang in there. Come here often and share...there is great help here. Work on detachment. That is so important. Since I've been able to detach from difficult child 1, I'm able to see his charm again. And, I'm able to disinguish between not liking his actions and loving him still. And I'm able to allow him to have the natural consequences for his actions. Like the fact that he is to have 24 hours of community service done by the end of December and he hasn't done one hour. So, when he ends up in jail from it....I'll bring him clean sock, underwear and maybe a pack of cigarettes. I'll visit, but I won't bail him out. And the best part... it doesn't upset me anymore. My heart goes out to you and the pain that you are in. Wish there was more I could do to help.... [/QUOTE]
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