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She will never be normal, will she?
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<blockquote data-quote="Bean" data-source="post: 327181" data-attributes="member: 8620"><p><em>Totally</em> understand that. </p><p></p><p>I guess I was blessed by the fact that the last 9 months of her "childhood" went like this:</p><p></p><p>Jail</p><p>Home</p><p>Run away</p><p>Jail</p><p>Inpatient tx (4 mos.)</p><p>My parent's for 5 weeks (<em>really</em> hard to tell her she couldn't come home, but HAD to do it for us, for her, for our other kids) </p><p>Jail until she was 18 (about 4 weeks)</p><p>Group home for adult offenders (4 months)</p><p>Parent's house (present)</p><p></p><p>Through this, I had much grieving and adjustment. I mourned for the loss of things not going the "normal" way. For her not leaving our house under good terms, welcome to come back anytime. For the dreams of who I thought she'd be. For the reality that I'm living.</p><p></p><p>I think, though, that it was good. I could have had her home and still could. But it would have been to the detriment of everyone in our house. It wasn't until just recently things felt like a home instead of a prison here. The tension is gone, the fear of having to hide everything is gone. The instability is gone. And I've been able to begin detaching in a way I know I could not have done if she were still here. </p><p></p><p>It might take you booting her out for you to begin that process, too, I don't know. But I know that it is difficult and scary, and an emotional roller coaster.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bean, post: 327181, member: 8620"] [I]Totally[/I] understand that. I guess I was blessed by the fact that the last 9 months of her "childhood" went like this: Jail Home Run away Jail Inpatient tx (4 mos.) My parent's for 5 weeks ([I]really[/I] hard to tell her she couldn't come home, but HAD to do it for us, for her, for our other kids) Jail until she was 18 (about 4 weeks) Group home for adult offenders (4 months) Parent's house (present) Through this, I had much grieving and adjustment. I mourned for the loss of things not going the "normal" way. For her not leaving our house under good terms, welcome to come back anytime. For the dreams of who I thought she'd be. For the reality that I'm living. I think, though, that it was good. I could have had her home and still could. But it would have been to the detriment of everyone in our house. It wasn't until just recently things felt like a home instead of a prison here. The tension is gone, the fear of having to hide everything is gone. The instability is gone. And I've been able to begin detaching in a way I know I could not have done if she were still here. It might take you booting her out for you to begin that process, too, I don't know. But I know that it is difficult and scary, and an emotional roller coaster. [/QUOTE]
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