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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 458196" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>We have the same privacy rule as Lisa, and with a kid in the shape your's is in, I would read the journal too - even if we didn't have that rule. You can worry about privacy of such things later - don't have to tell her you read it. If she left it out she may be trying to get you to read it even if she would never admit it even to herself. There are so many bigger things to worry about that I would let that go.</p><p></p><p>the others are very right - you do NOT have to decide right now or even this week. My father used to say that it will all be better in the morning - meaning after a decent night sleep. He was right at least 90% of the time. Mostly because whatever was going on had us really upset and with a good night of sleep we were calmer and better able to think things through without catastrophizing.</p><p></p><p>I am also a HUGE believer in Momma's intuition. If that little voice is yelling at you, do what it says. The ONLY times I made really big, bad mistakes in parenting were when I ignored or went against that gut instinct and did what the "professionals" said was right. </p><p></p><p>TOMORROW - meaning Monday, Labor Day - you are to find some local al-anon and narcanon meetings and YOU are going to start attending if you are not already doing this at least one time a week. More than one time is better than one time each week, so the more often you can go the better. It is where you will find others in the exact situation other than here on the board. NOT to not come here, but to add those meetings. Meetings not only help YOU, they increase your child's chances of gaining a clean and sober life when she is ready for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 458196, member: 1233"] We have the same privacy rule as Lisa, and with a kid in the shape your's is in, I would read the journal too - even if we didn't have that rule. You can worry about privacy of such things later - don't have to tell her you read it. If she left it out she may be trying to get you to read it even if she would never admit it even to herself. There are so many bigger things to worry about that I would let that go. the others are very right - you do NOT have to decide right now or even this week. My father used to say that it will all be better in the morning - meaning after a decent night sleep. He was right at least 90% of the time. Mostly because whatever was going on had us really upset and with a good night of sleep we were calmer and better able to think things through without catastrophizing. I am also a HUGE believer in Momma's intuition. If that little voice is yelling at you, do what it says. The ONLY times I made really big, bad mistakes in parenting were when I ignored or went against that gut instinct and did what the "professionals" said was right. TOMORROW - meaning Monday, Labor Day - you are to find some local al-anon and narcanon meetings and YOU are going to start attending if you are not already doing this at least one time a week. More than one time is better than one time each week, so the more often you can go the better. It is where you will find others in the exact situation other than here on the board. NOT to not come here, but to add those meetings. Meetings not only help YOU, they increase your child's chances of gaining a clean and sober life when she is ready for it. [/QUOTE]
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