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bran155
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SHOOT ME PLEASE!!!!!
They released her to me ROR right out of the courtroom!!! I am still shell shocked. She has the same stipulations as before. She has curfew and TASK. She must comply with treatment and medications or she goes back to jail. They said she did not qualify for Youth Court because you must have an open Family Court case and she does but only until she is 18 which she will be in 2 weeks, therefore no Youth Court. Instead they sent her home with me. Oh Yay!!! This was completely unexpected. We didn't even have a chance to warn the kids. My nephew and son are going to be very upset. She has no medications, no doctor, no therapist, I have to start from scratch!!! She has been accepted by her ICM so that is a plus. She can do all of the leg work. I am not doing a darn thing for this kid unless I start to see some effort out of her.
She is already starting her c**p. She wants her Christmas presents, she wants money to get her hair done, not gonna happen!!!! She has already begun the cursing. That started in the car on the way home. She actually asked me to take her back to the jail so that she can get her belongings. I said absolutely not. She got very angry because she said her nose and tongue ring holes are going to close. Not my problem!!! She saw one of her "friends" when I was parking the car. He waited on the porch while she came in the house to badger me for money to take the bus to the jail. She says "I"m willing to take the bus the least you can do is give me the money". No, the least I can do is NOTHING!!!! The nerve. So she stormed out of here and walked away with her friend flailing her arms about. No doubt in my mind she is outside begging for bus money. I just cannot believe she is here. I am dreaming. I just did not expect this. I really thought she was going to be placed. The DA, the judge and her lawyer are all in agreement that she needs help but they do not have the right to force her into treatment. I asked about declaring her incompetent so that she could be remanded to a hospital, long term. Her lawyer said that would be impossible as they ask basic questions to prove competency, she would pass with flying colors. She is not cognitively impaired. She is mentally ill and a danger to herself but apparently that is not enough. Their hands are tied. So they say. So now we must go back to court every 2 weeks to show the TASK report. Oh what fun!!! I warned her in the car that she will be 18 very soon and if she does not comply with the rules, her treatment or if she gets abusive she will be packing her things and leaving. She agreed as that is what she wants to do anyway. Thank God for small favors.
Her lawyer actually told me that we should have allowed her to come home without any stipulations as this is only going to be harder on me. He thinks we should just let her do what she wants and then hit her bottom and hopefully she would make the effort to then change. I couldn't do that in good conscience. While I do not want to deal with her drama any longer and I do want a peaceful life. That is not my only goal. I do still love this kid very much and want her to succeed. I have 2 weeks to deal with this. If she doesn't show me and the rest of her family respect or if she does not comply with what is put in place for her then I WILL put her out!!!!!
My detachment and strength are now going to be put to the test. I hope that I am able to maintain. I have been doing so good, I don't want to take any steps backwards!!!! It was easy to detach when she wasn't here, let's see how I do now.
I apologize in advance as I am sure I will be eating up the boards for a while!!!
Thanks for listening.
Shawna
They released her to me ROR right out of the courtroom!!! I am still shell shocked. She has the same stipulations as before. She has curfew and TASK. She must comply with treatment and medications or she goes back to jail. They said she did not qualify for Youth Court because you must have an open Family Court case and she does but only until she is 18 which she will be in 2 weeks, therefore no Youth Court. Instead they sent her home with me. Oh Yay!!! This was completely unexpected. We didn't even have a chance to warn the kids. My nephew and son are going to be very upset. She has no medications, no doctor, no therapist, I have to start from scratch!!! She has been accepted by her ICM so that is a plus. She can do all of the leg work. I am not doing a darn thing for this kid unless I start to see some effort out of her.
She is already starting her c**p. She wants her Christmas presents, she wants money to get her hair done, not gonna happen!!!! She has already begun the cursing. That started in the car on the way home. She actually asked me to take her back to the jail so that she can get her belongings. I said absolutely not. She got very angry because she said her nose and tongue ring holes are going to close. Not my problem!!! She saw one of her "friends" when I was parking the car. He waited on the porch while she came in the house to badger me for money to take the bus to the jail. She says "I"m willing to take the bus the least you can do is give me the money". No, the least I can do is NOTHING!!!! The nerve. So she stormed out of here and walked away with her friend flailing her arms about. No doubt in my mind she is outside begging for bus money. I just cannot believe she is here. I am dreaming. I just did not expect this. I really thought she was going to be placed. The DA, the judge and her lawyer are all in agreement that she needs help but they do not have the right to force her into treatment. I asked about declaring her incompetent so that she could be remanded to a hospital, long term. Her lawyer said that would be impossible as they ask basic questions to prove competency, she would pass with flying colors. She is not cognitively impaired. She is mentally ill and a danger to herself but apparently that is not enough. Their hands are tied. So they say. So now we must go back to court every 2 weeks to show the TASK report. Oh what fun!!! I warned her in the car that she will be 18 very soon and if she does not comply with the rules, her treatment or if she gets abusive she will be packing her things and leaving. She agreed as that is what she wants to do anyway. Thank God for small favors.
Her lawyer actually told me that we should have allowed her to come home without any stipulations as this is only going to be harder on me. He thinks we should just let her do what she wants and then hit her bottom and hopefully she would make the effort to then change. I couldn't do that in good conscience. While I do not want to deal with her drama any longer and I do want a peaceful life. That is not my only goal. I do still love this kid very much and want her to succeed. I have 2 weeks to deal with this. If she doesn't show me and the rest of her family respect or if she does not comply with what is put in place for her then I WILL put her out!!!!!
My detachment and strength are now going to be put to the test. I hope that I am able to maintain. I have been doing so good, I don't want to take any steps backwards!!!! It was easy to detach when she wasn't here, let's see how I do now.
I apologize in advance as I am sure I will be eating up the boards for a while!!!
Thanks for listening.
Shawna
